A Singles Online Dating Experiment

7 Responses to “A Singles Online Dating Experiment”

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   MsCheevious July 26, 2012 at 12:07 PM #

   The one thing I always say about online dating is “it’s like fishing in a huge ocean…” you’ll bring in some great catches, but now and then you may get a shoe too. LOL. Keep at it baby girl!

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   LisaJeyDavis July 26, 2012 at 12:06 PM #

   I posted this on the Singles Warehouse blog as well, but here it is:

   Don’t give up… Keep updating your profile and perfect / change it. You will also attract some good ones I think. I remember I use to have something in there that said, “If you don’t take the time to read what took me SO MUCH TIME to write, then please don’t bother connecting. There will be a quiz….” but to each her own… haha. the experiment that yields perfect results right out of the gate is RARE, so keep tweaking… and have some FUN

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     Single Dating Diva July 26, 2012 at 2:33 PM #

     I love that line I’m so gonna use it!!! Thanks for the great comment!

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   Dave July 25, 2012 at 8:01 AM #

   Nice post, but in practice the advice does not work. Getting responses has only to do with whether the person at the other end is interested in you or not. What your write in a message has little to do with it (within the bounds of reason). People that run dating websites have done click-stream analysis and found people often look at someones profile first – before opening the message. Writing longer more thought-out messages simply takes up more of your time. It does not increase response rate. I personally have gotten to the point where I am not going to spend valuable time until someone has in some way shape or form shown some interest in me…at that point I will invest lots of time, but until I get a first response…forget it. I will invest my time in other things. There are too many people playing silly little “let’s see how many messages I can get” games. If your going to message first the better advice is simply to “carpet bomb” – as sad as that sounds. Reach as many people as possible as quickly as possible and work with what comes back. Even if the response rate is low, if you send enough out you will get responses.

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     Single Dating Diva July 25, 2012 at 8:47 AM #

     Thanks Dave. Well, perhaps you are right to a point … but don’t you like knowing that someone actually paid attention to what you wrote in your profile?

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       Dave July 25, 2012 at 10:42 AM #

       I like that someone read it sure. Now guy’s don’t get many first messages so you sorta have to work with what you can get…I have had long conversation and dates that did start with only “hi” in their first message. The same experiment done by a guy might yield maybe 3-5 messages. A certain portion of said messages come from women in distant parts of the world (I ignore those). A certain portion come from women that you really could not even see yourself dating even if you considerably stretch who you are willing to date (some will get ignored, some will get a friendly reply thanking them for their message, but…). There will be the odd middle of the road person worth chatting with and the remaining portion interestingly enough tend to be OUTSTANDING prospects, but they only come up now and again (say one in 6-8 months or something).

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         Single Dating Diva July 25, 2012 at 10:48 AM #

         well I guess there is no perfect answer, it’s on a case by case situation … most are people you just delete and move on … not worth your time

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