You see someone from across the room. They look back at you. You want to approach but you hesitate. Are they interested too? Maybe, but what if they’re not. How would you know. Do you take the chance and make that brave walk over to them? Perhaps you need a little extra motivation. What you need, my friends, is the “5 Second Flirt”. What’s that? Well I’m going to tell you, and what’s more, I’m going to tell you if it actually could work.
The “5 Second Flirt”
Recently, I asked women and men about their flirting techniques and how they show someone they are interested in them. Someone came back to me with the “5 Second Flirt”. What’s that? I asked. It’s something heralded by many dating experts as a sure thing. Essentially, the theory is that if a woman sees a man she’s interested in, she just needs to look at him for 5 seconds and if he’s interested then he will approach. I was both fascinated and intrigued. I wanted to see if it had any merit. So, I asked my readers and my guy friends about it. I asked them if it would work on them. I got some very very interesting answers. The majority of the men who answered said yes it would definitely make them want to approach if they were interested too. Most, however, also noted adding a smile gave that extra encouragement they needed. So does it work … seems so!!
Just as a side note, what I found most interesting was how men from my hometown of Ottawa (Canada) responded in comparison to the other guys who were from all over the world. Apparently (and I’ve heard this a lot), Ottawa girls are cold and shoot men down harshly so most Ottawa guys have been more cautious about who they approach anymore and how they approach. I don’t know how true this is. Personally, I’m very nice to whoever approaches me and I let them off nicely if I’m not interested, most girls say the same … that if they are approached respectfully, they will be respectful as well. The guys disagree. In my own experience, lots of guys will look at me and even if I smile back they don’t approach, so there could be some truth to this. It seems like it would be an important discussion to have, so I’ve taken it upon myself to find out more … fascinating! Stay tuned for my Ottawa dating reconnaissance mission!!
Making It Work
Would the “5 Second Flirt” work? According to the majority of men who I spoke with, yes, it would work. What would work even better is if that look was accompanied by a smile. If they are interested they will approach the girl. So ladies, that means taking a bit of initiative. Are you ready for that? 5 seconds is a lot of time. Do me a favor, try it now. Just stare at the screen, count 1 second, 2 second, 3 second, 4 second, 5 second … now smile. There!! You did it!! It’s that easy. Guys, it could work for you too, why not. Just don’t look at a girl in a creepy way. At least show you’re interested by looking and if she smiles back then approach. I know, I know, a lot of guys would rather the girl just approach them if she’s interested, but I also know I would rarely do that. Perhaps I’m more of a traditionalist. Although I like it when the guy makes the first move, I am certainly willing to help him along by giving him some encouragement. So ladies, let’s go out and try this and let me know what happens!!
Have you tried the “5 Second Flirt”? Did it work or not? What was your experience? Would love to hear about it in the comments below!!
Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva