Well, when it comes to sleeping, I like my space. I enjoy my bed, I will admit it. I bought very expensive, very soft sheets and crawling into bed at night is a treat. Yes, I enjoy sleeping on my own, I mean who doesn’t like having the whole bed to themselves? Seriously!? OK, but I will also admit that I do like having someone there with me sometimes too, you know, to cuddle with and for company. Sometimes. When you date a lot, you don’t really get much of that sleep over experience, however, when it does happen it can be awkward.
The first time guy sleeps over can be a very stressful experience. You want it to go right, especially if it’s something you’ve planned for.
Read More in my latest on Singles Warehouse “Top 5 Tips For First Time Guy Sleeps Over”
Happy Dating!
Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva
Another awesome topic, Diva! And great tips!
What a great topic! I don’t think I’ve seen this one before. And you’re exactly right.
Thanks, fellow Canadian!
When guy spends the night, the best thing to do is be yourself – but be your best self! Do what SingleDatingDiva says – tidy up and present your home and yourself as you would for any important guest – then be YOU!
If you feel uncomfortable then you’ll act uncomfortable and that will make HIM fell uncomfortable…if you are just nervous, then tell him!! It gives him a chance to be the man and hold space for you, building trust and demonstrating you can be vulnerable to him.
If you are REALLY uncomfortable, then perhaps the timing is not right, listen to your body and see if you feel light about it (nerves) or heavy (fear) and if that fear is founded (it’s him) or not (it’s you) and proceed accordingly!
And remember, you can have him stay over even before (or after) you go “all the way” without the expectation of sex – remember how much fun you had on sleepovers as a kid? Well if he’s into it and is really into you, he probably would jump at the chance to have an entire night with you to himself, to talk, to share, to cuddle, to kiss, to dine, to massage you, oh the possibilities are endless – and knowing there is no pressure for sexual performance can make the intimacy SOAR for both people! And it might just be a way to set yourself or HIM apart from the others and have a new experience! Why not see what ELSE he is capable in the bedroom besides going at it like animals (fun too)? Maybe he knows hypnosis? Maybe he gives great hand massages? Maybe he’d like to paint your nails? Rub your feet? Stare into your eyes and listen louder than any man ever has to you…it all can be VERY exciting and build rapport that can then lead to even more exciting SEX later!!
P.S. just found out that SDD is Canadian and I LOVE that!! Spent many years up in Canada working, eh? : ))
Thanks Andrew! Yes, I’m Canadian eh! LOL … thanks for your comment and great insights!!