When I think of people I like to have around me, I think of those who make me feel happy, positive and who bring out the best in me. That’s also one of the primary criteria I’m seeking out in a potential partner.
What does that mean … well we all have positive and negative traits in us. That’s not a news flash. However, what side we show to whom changes depending on how we feel, but more importantly, how THEY make us feel. Have you ever been around people who always seem to make you angry, push your buttons and make the crazy inside you emerge? I do! My parents do a lot of that. They have their moments when they seem to bring out some of my worst qualities but parents do that, don’t they? Parents we can’t choose and they will always be in our lives. How about those we CAN choose?
Bringing Out The Best In You
As I mentioned earlier, one quality I look for in a partner is if they bring out the best in me. I have a lot of great qualities, just like everyone else, I can be generous, happy, make jokes, laugh, work hard, compassionate, loving, nurturing, helping, bounce back very quickly, have a big heart and loyal. Those are the qualities I like to exhibit and live. I want a man who brings those things out in me because he is a good person with those qualities. This man would encourage and support me in my activities and life path.
No one is saying there won’t be challenging days, or days when he would inspire the crazy lady to emerge, but he would be good and smart enough to deal with it quickly and we can move on from it. What is my dark side … well, since you asked, I like attention from my partner and don’t like to feel like I’m competing with others (but as long as I feel secure in a relationship I’m not jealous at all), I could be a little bossy (but I do prefer a man to be a man in the relationship) and I have a bit of a red head temper (that dissipates just as quickly as it emerges). So that’s not so bad, right? LOL
Everyone has their good and bad sides, anyone who tells you otherwise is outright lying. Are you responsible for your own behavior? Absolutely YES! But, sometimes, just sometimes, those around you can help you move in one direction or another … so why not surround yourself with those who tend to move you to the positive direction and bring out the best in you? Just some food for thought …
Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva
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Coach Suzie 
LIKE! A MILLION TIMES LIKE! this is exactly what I’m working through right now! My last guy brought out the absolute worst in me and made me believe that’s who I was.
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Thanks! Sometimes we just need to realize that someone is just plain bad for us. You know who you are, deep down inside, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!!
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oooh I wish I had read this yesterday! I had a guy ask me what I was looking for in a man…Someone who brings out the best in me is such a good answer! LOVE the post LOVE your witing!
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Thank you sooo much! Glad you have an answer for next time!
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I was just going to write something about this myself. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I LOVED reading them!
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Thanks Rita! It’s something I keep trying to remind myself … So important but we often forget!
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Great article Suzie! Your partner should bring out the best in you, but what I think is more important is someone who brings out the MOST in you too.
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Thanks 🙂 Your’re right it is about bring out the best and MOST in you!
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You’re so right! We should use these feelings to determine whether or not a date has gone well.
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You’re right … and it really should be applied to anyone we surround ourselves with.
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Great article and great topic! I remember after my divorce saying “I just don’t like the person I became while married to _____” So that’s a very important aspect of healthy relationships… someone who promotes who you are, allows you to be you and applauds it… and whom you feel free to do likewise.
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So true … the one thing I remember the most when I got divorced is people saying “the old Suzie is back!” … I was like what? Where did I go? I didn’t realize how much I had changed.
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like the saying goes, it’s tough to soar with eagles if you’re surrounded by turkeys baby! (I added the baby…) you find those eagles, and they’ll not only soar with you and encourage you to soar… they’ll protect you and claw out the eyes of anyone who hurts you. LOL.
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Love it!
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One of the hardest things about dating is realizing that just because he’s a great guy and has his shit together; doesn’t mean he is necessarily a great match for you! That sucks 🙂 But better to pass rather than change who you are to make it work.
In the words of “Dr. Seuss, “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”
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Such great advice! We really tend to forget our priorities sometimes! 🙂
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Too often I’ve fallen for guys who didn’t nurture me in the ways I needed. They thought my dreams and aspirations weren’t worthy of their support and that will never work. I’ve also dated guys who thought that it was totally acceptable for me to just hang out and drink all day, smoking (ick so glad I quit that) and not striving for anything (oh those college days)…I realized eventually that wasn’t somebody I wanted to be with. I’m responsible for me in the end but I want a man who pushes me to follow my dreams, take chances, and be the best possible me.
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That’s awesome! Sometimes it takes time to get there, but when you do you don’t settle for anything less!!
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