A dream is a wish your heart makes
When you’re fast asleep
In dreams you lose your heartaches
Whatever you wish for, you keep
Have faith in your dreams and someday
Your rainbow will come smiling thru
No matter how your heart is grieving
If you keep on believing
the dream that you wish will come true

(A Dream Is A Wish Your Heart Makes from Disney’s Cinderella)

We all recognize this song.  We all grew up believing it could be true.  I mean if Cinderella got her prince, then so could we! If the prince could find his princess after searching for her in all the land, then why can’t you?  I recently watched Cinderella and it got me thinking.  No this isn’t going to be a rant about how Disney ruined reality for all of us, that’s been done to death.  No, this is about how our perception of how things should be affects our reactions to how things really are.

A Dream Is A Wish Your Heart Makes

The month of March was definitely the month of bursting bubbles in my personal life.  Pop … pop … pop … and again pop … pop.  STOP already!!  The bubbles were things I was dreaming and wishing for deep down in my heart.  Unfortunately, I was rudely awakened from the dream that was the wish my heart made.  It was one thing after another.  I won’t go into details, but those who follow me on Twitter know that I’ve been drinking a lot of wine lately and sorting through things.  One day I might tell you all about it, but not ready to just yet.  But it definitely got me thinking … were my expectations unrealistic? Did I see what I wanted to see and not the reality?  Was the hope in my heart something I made up?  Is it wrong to dream and hope? No, I don’t think so … but you need to know when you’re crossing the line between wishful thinking and being in the realm of possibility.  You also need to know when it’s time to wake up from that dream.

We sometimes enter into, and remain in, relationships or liaisons that are bad for us.  We wish so hard that they will be the happily ever after we always wanted, but, in reality, they aren’t.  Why do we even set ourselves up for failure?  I do that all the time.  I think sometimes we see what we want to see but not what’s really there.  But wait a minute, just when Cinderella lost all hope and felt that “there was nothing left to believe in” … bibbity bobbity boo everything changed.  What I want to know is where is MY Fairy Godmother.  I mean really, how many tears do you have to cry to conjure up some good luck in your love life?  As they say, how many frogs do you REALLY have to kiss to get that prince … bah … here I go back to the realm of dreams.

In Dreams You Lose Your Heartaches

I think that’s very true.  When you dream you hope.  You take yourself out of the painful reality that is your past and present and you look to a brighter future.  There is absolutely nothing wrong with that.  I mean, we need to hope, right?  What is life without the hope of something better?  Well, I do have to admit I lose hope sometimes and feel like perhaps there is nothing better out there for me … that perhaps I won’t find that one person I really want to spend the rest of my life with and he actually wants the same.  Imagine that … finding that one special someone and not having to deal with all the heartache (and bullshit) anymore.  The reason I find it hard to believe that it’s in the realm of possibility is because I thought my dreams came true when I met my ex-husband … we all know how THAT turned out.  I’ve also met others who I thought maybe, just maybe, they could be that special someone … but alas they made other choices and my bubble burst and here I am on my own … wondering, dreaming, wishing things were different but they’re not.  The past couple of weeks I’ve wondered whether to just stop dreaming.  But then I remembered that if you …

Have faith in your dreams someday your rainbow will come smiling through …

and maybe, just maybe …

If you keep on believing the dream that you wish will come true!

Here’s hoping that’s true for all of us!!

Your Sister in Dating Bliss,

Single Dating Diva

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