Time and again when I meet someone new and when I go on dates, men seem to be so amazed and impressed that they can have an intelligent conversation with me. Common things they say are “you know about politics?”, “you actually know about history” and “you are interested in current affairs?”. I always thought that they were just pulling my leg, you know, trying to get on my good side. But, when I asked around some of my readers, friends and family they all said the same thing. They rarely can find a girl who cares about anything but celebrities and fashion. Many women they meet can’t even tell them the basics about what’s going on in the world. I still wasn’t convinced, until, I saw something in the news.
Women, Politics and Current Affairs
Apparently researchers out of the UK surveyed men and women’s knowledge of domestic and international news as well as current affairs in Australia, Canada, Colombia, Greece, Italy, Japan, Korea, Norway, the UK and the US. A comparative study was done and it was found that women living in the world’s most advanced democracies and under the most progressive gender equality regimes still know less about politics and current affairs than men. Interesting. Well, what’s the reason? The information is certainly available very easily. There are so many ways to access media from all over the world in every language possible. Why, then do people avoid it? The study cited the use of males in the media as main sources and gender inequality in specializations related to these topics. Women sources are preferred for what they call “soft news topics” such as family, lifestyle and culture. OK, makes sense, but, what doesn’t make sense is that this information is easily accessible, no one is stopping them, so why don’t they just access it? Easy. They don’t really see it as essential in their own specific worlds. It’s not important or affecting them so they don’t deem it essential.
It shouldn’t be a blanket statement, however, because I know MANY women, including myself, who are well versed in politics and current affairs, but, I do work for the Canadian Government, so it’s part of my job to know. Besides, a lot of men don’t know about politics and current affairs either. They prefer speaking about sports and drinking. So, no blanket statements. Perhaps these women who do know about these things aren’t the ones who are out there dating? I don’t know really, all I know is what I hear from men, and, men say that they find it refreshing when they can have a dynamic, intelligent, conversation with a woman. So, women, if you’re reading this, read a newspaper, do some research into random facts. Watch a documentary or two. Not to attract men, but, to learn about the world you live in and your place in it. Celebrity news and fashion are fun but don’t add substance to your life.
Do Men Prefer Intelligent Women?
I don’t know, do they? I mean, do they REALLY? Typically, I find it’s about looks first, intelligence second. Just because a guy is impressed with my mind doesn’t mean he’s going to automatically fall for me. I’ve been rejected by guys who find me intellectually stimulating, and, “refreshing” but, because I wasn’t a size zero trophy woman I was bypassed. Although I’m not unattractive, I wasn’t their type of attractive. Ya well, I can understand that. I’ve done the same. But, really? Why? When faced with someone who you love to talk to and you are even excited to meet and spend time with you reject them because you’re not attracted to them? Kind of shallow, isn’t it? I was once rejected by someone who had already seen me and found me very attractive and who was impressed by my intelligence because he decided that although I was smart, sexy and entertaining, I wasn’t beautiful or attractive ENOUGH. Umm, OK. Then again, he was a highly successful 50 year old Peter Pan, so perhaps that doesn’t count LOL. Either way, looks do matter, just as much, if not more, than intelligence. Regardless of what anyone will tell you. It’s just a fact of life. Would you date someone you weren’t attracted to? I didn’t think so. Sorry folks (don’t shoot the messenger).
Well, what I’ve concluded is (and correct me if I’m wrong) the looks reel them in and the brains are what keep them. It’s the combination of both that is the key. And, always remember that “if you look too closely at the form, you miss the essence” (Rumi). So, do you prefer the icing or the cake or both together? Plain. Simple.
What do you think? Guys – do you prefer intelligent women? Honestly? Women have you been rejected because you had more brains than beauty? I would love to hear about it in the comments!
Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva