I had written down some things I read a while back about types of people that others avoid. So I put some feelers out there to see what types of women and men people tend to avoid when dating. I got a lot of very interesting answers! Some I might not have thought of. I’m going to start with that types of women that men avoid.
Men aren’t that complicated. They like balance and stability in their women, in addition to intelligence and attractiveness. So what is it that makes them really run for the hills?
Type 1: Men Avoid Serial Flirters
No one likes to have competition, especially when it comes to the attentions of their significant other. When a man sees a woman flirting with every man in the room and soaking in all the attention like it’s oxygen then, he might want to flirt back and try to get her as a challenge, but he definitely won’t want to keep her. A woman who’s a keeper is one who gives all her attention to her man. Now there’s nothing wrong with being social and joking around, but within limits. You need to be respectful of your partner and make sure they, and everyone in the room, knows you are together. A woman who’s always on the prowl is not one that a man takes seriously. Plain. Simple.
Type 2: Men Avoid Husband Seekers
Sound odd to you? Well it’s not. Marriage talk and marriage mindedness is not the problem, but, it’s a problem when it happens too early or becomes the primary focus. Some women latch on like a man is her last hope at the white picket fence. That is the WORST thing to do to a man. Relationships should take their natural course and if it leads in commitment and marriage then it does, if it doesn’t, then it doesn’t. Women talking about their dream wedding and their quest for their groom only scares men away or, even worse, attracts the desperate men. Two desperate people together? Disaster! Either way it’s not good, so don’t focus on marriage but focus on the person and focus on the relationship. That’s how you will see who someone REALLY is rather than their potential. That goes for BOTH women and men.
Type 3: Men Avoid Stage 5 Clingers
What’s a “stage 5 clinger”? Well, these are women who stick to a guy like glue as soon as they get the slightest encouragement, maybe even a friendly smile, and end up being obsessed with the guy. Even when the guy says he’s not interested, they are in denial. They become obsessed and clingy. They become manipulative and borderline crazy. Texting all the time, seeing every milestone as an anniversary (happy 1 day anniversary of our first text!!), they ignore all signs that the guy is trying to send them that he’s not interested. But, I have to interject here, often times this is a result of a guy leading a girl on and not being clear about his intentions from the beginning … what you get as a result gentlemen when you do this is a stage 5 clinger! So be clear about what you want from someone before you do it!!
Type 4: Men Avoid Party Girls
Ladies, you out clubbing EVERY weekend with your girls? Do you find yourself so hungover most weekends that you can’t even remember what (and who) you even did and if you even had fun? Not cool. Men notice this stuff. They really really do. They want to party and have fun with these party girls, but, when it comes to having something real, they look elsewhere. I’m not talking about the occasional fun night out with your friends, I’m talking about the regulars at the bar or club. The guys know who they are, they can tell who’s a party girl and who isn’t. How? Well, the party girls looks like she’s at home drinking and having fun, she’s dressed like a street walker and she doesn’t have any class. Sorry ladies, you can’t fake class. Men want someone they can be proud to walk hand in hand with in public. They’ll have a good time with the good time girl, maybe even date her for a bit, but it’s all casual, nothing serious.
Type 5: Men Avoid Drama Queens
These women make everything a BIG DEAL! This person is overly dramatic about everything. They blow everything out of proportion. The slightest issue becomes exaggerated to the equivalent of a drive by shooting. These women need everything to be all about them. Who needs that? Not men! Drama queens are high maintenance and need constant attention and appeasing. This drama queen reels you in by worshiping the ground you walk on and makes you feel important and then BAM the whole world becomes about them. These women make a scene at the slightest problems and embarrass anyone they are with. They may even go to the point of trying to harm themselves to get attention. Who wants to deal with that? No consistency and no stability. Not cool.
All women are guilty of some (or all) of these things some of the time, but, some women are guilty all of the time. Men are looking for a well balanced woman, just like women are looking for a well balanced man. The best thing to do is to reign in some of the craziness and be true to who you are. If someone is making you crazy then perhaps they really aren’t bringing out the best in you and you need to move on.
My question is, do women avoid the same things OR do these same things make a man look more virile and attractive? Would love to hear about it in the comments!
Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva