All the controversy surrounding the “Blurred Lines” song got me thinking … are the lines really that blurred? Do some women actually give off the wrong signals inadvertently? Also, how does someone know if a women is not interested versus a women playing coy? Haven’t heard the song? Here it is in all its uncensored booby glory …
OK so is it really so bad? Hmm … well, depends how you look at it. Let’s read some of the lyrics …
And that’s why I’m gonna take a good girl
I know you want it I know you want it I know you want it
You’re a good girl Can’t let it get past me
You’re far from plastic Talk about getting blasted
I hate these blurred lines
I know you want it I know you want it I know you want it
But you’re a good girl The way you grab me Must wanna get nasty
Go ahead, get at me
Hmm … what the hell is that supposed to mean? Well, I don’t think it’s borderline rape … I think it’s full on seduction. Total alpha male confident and cocky at his best trying to convince a woman that she really does want him. Are people taking this a little too far? Well, the implications could be misinterpreted, yes. I totally agree that this song definitely walks a fine line. Anyone who’s out there clubbing or going to bars definitely encounters this situation wherever they go. Guys want to get laid and they see their target and will say anything to get her. Guys especially want to conquer that “good girl” mountain. It’s really not that complicated. Is it borderline sexual assault? Well, depends how you take it.
Blurred Lines? Perhaps Mixed Signals?
Just because a girl is flirting with you doesn’t mean she wants to have sex with you. Just because she decided to dress extra revealing or sexy that night doesn’t mean she’s asking for it. Just because she’s playing hard to get doesn’t mean she really wants to get caught. I agree the lines really are blurred and that’s why everyone involved has to be careful.
Sometimes I send the wrong message, I will admit it. I might dress extra provocatively, drink a little extra and cross the flirting lines … even when I’m not interested THAT way … it’s all about the flirting and the attention and feeling good. C’mon who doesn’t like to be “checked out”? I was talking about it with some guys the other day. Yes, girls like to be checked out, they just don’t like to be disrespected and ogled at. Does that make me a tease? Perhaps … well, really I don’t think so … not necessarily … but men do it just as much as women.
A lot of men send mixed signals. They make women feel good and make it appear like they’re interested but they really aren’t. They just wanted the attention and wanted to be, well, wanted. Blurred lines and mixed signals go both ways. Because these blurred lines can lead you to a dangerous situation physically, emotionally or mentally, you have to be clear about your intentions and expectations at all times. Guys, your “blurred lines” can lead to a Stage 5 Clinger. Be careful.
Blurred Lines? Then Get Your Eyes Checked!
If you’re not seeing straight and you’ve got blurred lines my advice is to stop in your tracks. If a girl says no, or can’t give her consent for whatever reason, regardless if you think she’s playing hard to get or seriously not interested then you BACK OFF … if she wants you she’ll come after you … don’t risk being THAT guy …
NO MEANS NO!! Even if it’s a flirty and blurry no … don’t you ever forget that … and, like the ad shown above says: just because she isn’t saying no doesn’t mean she’s saying yes … don’t take that risk!!
In the meantime … this one’s for the ladies …
Happy Hunting!!
Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva
Copyright Single Dating Diva
Coach Suzie 
Nothing less than enthusiastic consent is good enough.
Pretty sure most women reading this will have been the subject of unwanted attention, where it’s presumed we want for whatever reason.
For me, that’s no blurred line, but a red one. It all accumulates, it’s not about us and our behaviour/signals, but about some mens’ sense of entitlement. I mean, what’s wrong with asking rather than telling us what we want? We have got brains as well as all of those other body parts that get so much attention.
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Agreed … respecting people’s choices and borders should be automatic, however, not everyone thinks that way. Thanks for the comment!
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You’re welcome. The thing I find most annoying is how catchy the song is. It’s now stuck in my head.
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I know! It’s not a bad song if you ignore the lyrics LOL
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I believe it is safest for women not to put themselves in a position to turn a man on, then stop him. Men get physiologically charged up and can get frustrated and angry when the brakes are put on. It is a dangerous situation for a woman to be in. Even making out with a guy can quickly become a difficult situation to stop. Men may cross the line between persuasion into coercion in the heat of the moment. Ladies should always think before they kiss or touch a guy. Of course, No means No, but women need to act wisely and have their boundaries firmly established and expressed early in the evening. Otherwise, they are putting themselves in an unnecessarily dangerous situation.
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