A few days ago I read Biggest Mistakes Men Make With Online Dating on this site. As a straight single girl, who is currently a member of several dating sites, I see those mistakes on a regular basis, and agreed with a lot of what the author had to say.
However when Single Dating Diva asked if I would like to write a complimentary post about the mistakes girls make, I realized it was something I’d thought about less.
So what mistakes do us girls make when it comes to online dating?
Biggest Mistakes Women Make With Online Dating
Not Being Honest
Men aren’t the only ones who upload inaccurate photos!
If you actually plan to meet up with someone in person, there’s no point using old photos, or ones where you look thinner than you really are. No one wants to create a disappointing first impression simply by turning up!
Be honest with yourself. Select photographs which actually look like you, and include at least one full-length shot. That way, you know anyone you meet up with is attracted to you just the way you are.
Think carefully about what impression your photos make.
If you met a guy in a pub, would he already know what you look like in a bikini? And would you want that to be why he was attracted to you in the first place? Choose photos which convey something about your personality or hobbies. If you only wear fancy dress once a year, don’t post every picture you’ve ever had taken in costume.
Being Afraid of Rejection
The great thing about online dating is that rejection is passive. If someone isn’t interested, they simply won’t reply. Big deal!
You don’t have to worry about finding out if the guy you like is single – that part of the ground work is done for you already. So make the first move.
Statistics show that girls more often send the first message than guys, so if you find someone you like, don’t wait around for him to contact you.
What’s the worst thing that can happen? He won’t reply back.
And then you just continue searching … because there really are plenty more fish in the sea. And there’s an entire ocean online!
We all do it. As girls, we read into everything.
And when your first communication with a guy is over email or instant message, it can be hard to interpret tone.
Try not to read too much into those initial messages. Realistically you won’t know how attracted you are to someone until you meet him in person, so communicate enough to know you’ll have areas of common interest to talk about, but don’t over analyse how many ‘x’s a guy writes at the end of a message, or how long it takes for him to reply in those early stages. Because genuinely, most of the time, nothing you read into will have been premeditated.
Expecting Too Much
The worst thing you can do is see online dating as an interview for a husband.
Rather than searching for ‘The One’, take it one step at a time. Search for a fun date. The less pressure you put on potential dates, the less pressure you put on yourself, and the more likely you are to enjoy the whole experience, and just be yourself.
If you lower your expectations, and just see internet dating as a way to meet new people and have a fun and different evening, then you won’t be disappointed.
So go have fun!
Miss Twenty-Nine is the creator and editor of the 30 Dates Blog. After completing 30 Blind Dates in the three months running up to her 30th birthday – an adventure which took her around the world – she is now completing 30 Dating Experiments, with the help of a range of other daters. Follow her blog at 30blinddates.wordpress.com or on Twitter.
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