This is the week of love, or so they say. I think it has something to do with Valentine’s and Cupid and all that crap. The problem is that love isn’t about that and it certainly isn’t about one day! We tend to be swayed by popular culture and let that influence our attitudes about our self worth. This is especially true if we happen to be single during this time of year. Holidays are particularly difficult for single people, this holiday is the most challenging. Is your first instinct to sit at home and throw a pity party? Well, as tempting as that sounds, it shouldn’t be. So what’s the solution? The solution is to stop looking for love in all the wrong places.
Looking for Love in ALL the Wrong Places
What does looking for love in all the wrong places mean? It means that you have a one track mind. You think that love means having a partner, someone to validate you and to love you. While that is one way to be loved and a great way, I know, but it’s not the only, nor the most important, way. Yes, you heard me right … having someone in your life isn’t the solution to all your problems. When love to you is about a partner, you tend to settle for the wrong sort of partner. Being with anyone is better than being alone, right? WRONG!! You know that so why do you keep on making bad dating choices over and over? I had to ask myself that same question not too long ago. A partner should enhance your life not bring you stress and anxiety. The low hanging fruit isn’t always the best fruit, sometimes you need to aim higher. They should be good to you. They should be emotionally available. But, hey so should you, right? Seriously people … when will we learn? No one wants to be alone, so then what to do when you’re looking for love?
Looking for Love in ALL the Right Places
The solution is looking for love in all the RIGHT places. Love is a gift that the universe gives us. You need to look around you. Love is there. It exists. It can take all shapes and forms. You need to see love for what it is … love is your family and friends, love is your environment, love is nature, love is doing things that make you happy, love is being with those people that make you feel good about yourself, love is doing good deeds, love is charity, love is that smile you give the homeless person on the street, love is listening, love is being there for someone who needs you, love is doing a good job, love is making a positive contribution to the world, love is loving yourself selflessly … essentially love is making the world a better place. That’s love my friends and THAT is what we should be celebrating this week. Celebrate all the blessings in your life – people, things and places – and be grateful for them because the love you have in your life, however small, is a precious gift. Looking for love in the mirror and all around you is looking for love in all the right places.
Once you have found REAL love then you will be truly ready to find love with someone special. Be a lovable person and you will be loved. Plain. Simple. Sending you lots of love this week and every week!
Readers, what does love mean to you? Are you looking for love in all the wrong places? I would love to hear about it in the comments!
Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva
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