The thing about online dating is that, well, it’s online. That means that people write whatever they want and you have to believe what they tell you. Sounds easy, right? Not so much. Problem is that people by nature aren’t honest. Regardless of their intentions, good or bad, they want to paint themselves in the most desirable light possible which is why they lie on their online dating profiles. We’ve all fallen for someone’s scheming at one point or another, usually because we want to believe them, but some people are just THAT GOOD at lying. What are the most common online dating profile lies? Read on!
Top 5 Online Dating Profile Lies
When you’re online dating, you need to take everything you read and hear with a “grain of salt”. Don’t be overly suspicious, but don’t believe everything you hear either. Just because they say something in their profile doesn’t mean it’s true. Let them demonstrate rather than tell you.
1. Looking for a Relationship
A lot of people will SAY they are looking for a relationship when in fact they really aren’t. They say that so that they won’t be weeded out. A lot of men will do this and end up being a relationship tease instead. I asked many men why they say they are looking for a relationship when they’re not and they said that that’s the only way they can get to date the quality women. Well, being deceptive ISN’T the answer and people end up getting hurt! Be honest and upfront about your intentions ALWAYS.
2. Outdated Picture
Many people put pictures of themselves in their online dating profile of when they were younger or thinner or more attractive. People change, they age, they gain weight, they modify their look, whatever, and that’s what they should be showing – their true self. Be honest about how you look online! The thing is, you will have to MEET the person you’re talking to and chances are you won’t win them over with your winning personality! Did you think they wouldn’t notice? The biggest pet peeve people have with online dating is that people don’t look like their pictures. It’s such an issue that men will actually make a point to tell me they’re surprised and relieved I look like my pic. That’s how bad it is. C’mon people! Take some good pics and post your REAL self because that’s the one you have to show to your prospective date!!
3. Relationship Status
There are those online dating who SAY they’re single but really aren’t. They are attached in one way or another. Often they will tell you once you start chatting, but many aren’t so upfront about it. Married? In a relationship? Living with your partner? Then you SHOULDN’T be online dating! Even if you’re bored and looking for something to pass the time, DON’T waste other people’s time. If you are really looking to get out of your relationship then clean up your mess before getting someone else involved. For those of you that fall for an attached man or woman, don’t get sucked into their drama, regardless of how great they are (or seem to be). Most often times you’re just a passing distraction and they will go back to their life or find a new person to conquer.
4. Body Type
Almost everyone lies about their body type. Whether it’s their height or weight or physique, they lie. Too skinny? Too fat? Not thin enough? Got a little extra where you shouldn’t? Not athletic enough? Well, you want to show your best self right? The thing is, you need to show your TRUE self! That’s why I discourage putting professional pictures up and pictures that don’t show who you are. In my top do’s and don’ts of online dating profiles, I mention that your picture is your logo and you need to have a good one. I suggest three pictures – one head shot, one body shot (that shows your true body type) and one picture demonstrating you doing something you love. Good and honest pictures go a long way to getting you the partner who will want you for you! If you’ve got a little extra or not enough, it’s OK, be honest about it so that the person wanting to meet you knows what they’re getting and wants you anyway!
5. Financial & Employment Status
People are typically looking for someone with some stability. Lying about what you do and what you have is misrepresenting yourself. Like those who are “in between jobs” or unemployed or perhaps a not so sexy job title. Another problem is the person who brags about what they have. All they talk about is how much money is in their bank account and what they’ve accomplished. No one needs to hear that, I mean what are you trying to prove exactly? Again, you need to represent yourself in an honest way – even if you’re living in your parents’ basement! People who lie about these things get nowhere fast.
Your takeaway is BE HONEST! Don’t lie in your online dating profile and don’t believe everything you read!
READERS: What are some of the online dating lies that you’ve encountered? Share your stories in the comments below!
Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva
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