It’s free! Search singles profiles, flirt, read and chat with people you’d like to meet. This is what online dating is all about and the odds of finding love online has never been greater. Love CAN be found online because the internet makes it easier for other single people to meet up. But if you have been using online dating and never gone on a successful date could you be making these unknown common dating mistakes?
The Most Common But Unknown Online Dating Mistakes You Are Making
Searching for the right online dating site
When a dating site is not getting you the results you want it’s easy to point the finger and say there are no good men on this website and switch to a different site. You Google for the best website to find your ideal man which seems more productive than working to improve your profile and taking better pictures to attract better quality men.
The truth is that any website with lots of single men can be the right website because it’s not the website itself but how you use it. The biggest factor that determines whether women find love online or not is how much they persevere to do the right thing in dating, stay positive, and remain committed to finding love. It’s not about finding the right website.
You expected a completely honest online dating profile
When it comes to online dating we all want to be given a chance. We want the opportunity to meet in person and not be judged only by our online dating profile. He said he was 5’10” but in reality he’s shorter. He looked fit and athletic in his pictures but in person he’s on the heavier side. His pictures weren’t recent!
You were deceived and the excitement you anticipated meeting him just wanes. Now online dating just sucks! What else did he lie about?
Before you judge him do a check-in! Haven’t you fibbed on your profile before? Didn’t you post your most attractive pictures that were a few years old and even lowered your age by a few years to initially attract men? We can justify to ourselves why we fib on our profiles. So wouldn’t it make sense that he does the same?
He lies online because he sees himself as an insecure person but not untrustworthy. Lying happens on everyone’s profile. It’s not right but it happens on online dating. Just don’t be surprised or upset when it does.
You meet for coffee dates to save time
With online dating your mailbox is full of messages from men who are eager to meet you. To save time and energy you go on coffee dates or meet them for happy hour to screen through them quicker. You will probably know within 5 minutes if you want to see him again so why spend more time?
Your focus becomes on the QUANTITY of men not with the QUALITY of men you meet. You bypass properly screening men and getting to know them before figuring out if he is worthy of your time so you eagerly meet in person.
This leads to crappy first dates.
The way to enjoy online dating is being selective with who you go out with not with every guy who asks you out. Get to know them over the course of thoughtful messages and phone conversations which takes time and thought. You benefit by putting the time upfront because you get to go out with one great guy on a Friday night versus a handful of crappy coffee dates during the week. Dating becomes more enjoyable and you stick with online dating longer because you know love doesn’t happen overnight.
You expect to fall in love in 30 days or less
Remember you joined online dating because you were not meeting enough men in real life. Your dating experience can be frustrating and feel hopeless at times.
It takes a lot of work to find love and if finding love was quick and easy then everyone would be in love. Online dating sites and matchmakers would be out of business because love was easy to find.
In reality your tall, successful, honest man is not going to magically appear at your doorstep before your monthly gym membership renews. Dating is a long-term game until you find the one you want to be with forever so remember why you want to find love. You don’t want to be online dating forever but it’s unrealistic to expect that you’ll meet him in less than 30 days.
Apply one of these tips to make you more successful at online dating. Here’s to a happier dating life!
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About the Author: Candace Wong is the author of http://www.createahappylovelife.com/. She has a mission to help smart, ambitious women find love through bringing out the confidence in women to create genuine, long lasting relationships with Mr. Right who will make them feel spectacular inside and out.