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Seriously!
Although I am a pretty shy introverted guy, it has never been so much getting the courage to ask someone out, as I generally just assume I am going to fail at it, in which case I either get the expected result (no), or a better than expected result (yes). That was always the easy solution for me.
The real problem is actually meeting people whom I would want to ask out. With people I just met (or worse saw) randomly it is really hard to gather enough information about them (without turning into a creepy stalker!) to determine if have anything in common. at all. All you have to go on is looks which isn’t nearly enough.
If I think about how many online profiles I click on, based on the picture and perhaps age as that is what is on the list, there is probably less than half of the profile where I can even find enough of a topic to mention something more than “hi” in an e-mail. Needless to say, no e-mail gets sent and I click onwards down the list.
There are a few things you can sometimes visually spot. Seeing someone commute each day generally means they are employed. Do they carry a lunch? Good they are perhaps sensible with money. Sometimes they carry a few props that might point to an interest (ie a squash racket), but not all women carry their hobbies around with them I generally have to see them a number of times to infer much. Otherwise they just get relegated to being the hot women on the bus in the morning…or whatever. The only real hopes are co-workers (terrible if in a gender dominated field) or friends of friends.
I also generally like to figure out if the person is in fact single if I possibly can. That usually entails talking for a bit which is not always easy or even possible.
I don’t want to just see some women and go on looks. That’s awful.
Thanks for your comment John. It is hard just to meet someone compatible you’re correct, however, you never know unless you try. So, in your opinion, just attraction isn’t enough to make the move?
No, I certainly wouldn’t approach someone on looks alone. Doing that would be something for a one-night stand, not someone I want to keep around. For long term you can’t count on looks. You need other character traits that will last a lifetime. This doesn’t mean looks have zero value, but average is fine and probably lower maintenance as bonus.
But attractive women have great qualities too! That’s what’s frustrating for attractive women … they don’t get taken seriously, men think that less attractive women are more intelligent and won’t stray.
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Attractive women certainly have good qualities! And not just looks! It is more that, just by looking, a guy wouldn’t know of these.
The other issue with attractive women is that because she is so attractive she has tons more choice of guys and that considerably lowers the guy’s changes. Comparing again with online dating, there is many profiles I look at where she is clearly looks amazing and her profile looks good too, but I then I think that her mailbox must be completely overwhelming and there is therefore little chance of a reply to a cold message. I usually decide that I will leave it to her to send the first message if she is interesting. Sending the first one is a waste of time as she won’t have time to read it.