Living your best single life means focusing your attention on what’s really important – YOU! The best relationship you will ever have must be with yourself first. You can accomplish this by changing your focus from finding a partner to enhancing who you are so your can be a better person and companion. When you are true to you then you are able to not only make yourself happy, but those around you as well.
They say the best relationship you need to have is with yourself. Sound a little selfish? Not at all. It’s actually a very healthy attitude to have. Why? Because when you know and love yourself, only then can you truly have healthy relationships with others. Think about it. When you know yourself, you can be true to yourself. Often we get caught up in bad relationships because we think that that’s the kind of person we want to be with when in reality, it isn’t at all. Sometimes, we also fall into the trap of who we “should” be in contrast to who we really are, again, not being true to ourselves. I think living your best single life starts with having a good relationship with yourself which will lead you to be true to yourself.
Most people don’t intend to be single, but it happens. I personally was married and thought I would never have to be single again. It didn’t quite work out that way, but it turns out it was a blessing in disguise because I have grown tremendously as a person and learned so much about who I am and what I want. This is part of living your best single life. I have discovered so many things about myself that I never knew. Sometimes when you’re pushed into the fire, so to speak, you really learn to shine. I was always a survivor, but the past couple years have really taught me how strong I really was. I have learned so much. I am living my best single life. So how can YOU live your best single life too? I will be talking about how to get to know yourself better and how to determine what, and who, is really important in your life. By accomplishing these two things, you will not only be happier, you will be able to prioritize people, places and things in your life. How to get started?
Living Your Best Single Life
First off, stop the pity party! I know, I know, it’s difficult not to feel sorry for yourself, but really, you have to stop. You can’t move forward if you’re always looking back. Sound cliché? Well it’s true. I will be the first to admit that I love a good pity party once in a while, and it is ok ONCE IN A WHILE. You have to think positive. It’s terrible being single, trust me I know, and our dating experiences are usually bad … but you know what? Without hope for a better tomorrow, what else do we have left? So the first step to living your best single life? Stop feeling sorry for yourself.
Next, you need to de-centralize your life from a focus on finding a partner. Sometimes we get so caught up in our search for mister or miss right that we forget that we ourselves exist. When you obsess or focus too much on anything it feels like it’s taking forever. It’s good to not focus on your search, make it one of the things you do, but not the only thing you do. We all get caught up in trying to find the right person because our clock is ticking or we’re lonely and need companionship. What we end up doing (and I know this from experience) is settling for the wrong person because we lose sight of what we really want in a partner and just take the first best offer we get. The second step to living your best single life? Don’t obsess about finding a partner, just let it come naturally.
After you have re-adjusted your attitude and priorities, then you need something to fill your time and better yourself. You need to reflect on what you like to do. Have you always wanted to learn how to do something? Do you have a great idea that you just need time to work on? Well, this is a great opportunity to do it! Me, I started focusing more on my writing. I also took some cooking classes and started going to the gym several times a week. You know what? These things also a great place to meet new people with similar interests. Through my blog and the gym I have met some incredible people, most of which are going through similar things as me. What could be better? Think about it. What are your interests? Do you like sports? Are you a foodie? Did you always want to learn how to mix drinks? Do you enjoy reading a certain genre of books? There are countless things you could do. Take a moment to reflect on what you’re interested in and do a little research on what groups and courses are available in your area. Start small and you never know it might open a door to something bigger! The third step to living your best single life? Get a hobby!
Next you need to look good and feel good. How, you ask? By eating healthier and being active. When you take care of your body it will have an automatic effect on you. You will have more energy, feel more confident and unconsciously you will radiate positive energy which makes you a magnet to others. You also need to always dress well and look like you at least made a little effort. You should never leave the house looking like a slob. First of all, you will feel better about yourself when you look good. Second of all, you never know who you’re going to meet. We’ve all been there – going to the grocery store to pick up one small thing looking like we’re homeless and we see our high school crush or worse someone we’re interested in. Don’t let that happen. Be the one that catches everyone’s eye (for good reasons!). The fourth step in living your best single life? Care what you look like.
What’s the fifth step? Fill your schedule with activities, family and friends. The more you have nothing to do the more you will revert to feeling negative. Keeping yourself busy will ensure your focus will be on what’s important – you! Friends and family will make this easier. When we are in a relationship, we tend to neglect those closest to us (even if it’s not our intention). Being single gives you that opportunity to spend time with those you value the most. It will make you feel good too. Keeping your schedule full will ensure you remain positive and productive and will definitely help you live your best single life.
So how do you live your best single life? By having a great relationship with you and being true to yourself – your wants, your needs and your desires. You need to take care of yourself so you can be true to yourself and be a good partner to someone. In summary, living your best single life means not feeling sorry for yourself and thinking positive, not obsessing about finding a partner or settling for the wrong person, getting a pastime or learning something new in order to better yourself, taking care of your body (looking good always makes you feel good) and keeping your schedule full with activities, family and friends. These things have worked for me. Sometimes I do stumble, but I get up, dust myself off and keep walking. You just need to do what works for you and never give up.
Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva
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