We all know the story of Cinderella, the unfortunate girl done wrong who finally gets her happily ever after. We’ve grown up wanting our own Fairy Godmother, and, our own Prince Charming. We grow up wanting our OWN happily ever after. And why not?! We all certainly deserve it. Something we’ve seen in recent years is a rebellion against the Fairy Tale illusions that have apparently given us a false sense of how things should be, leading us to have unrealistic expectations. I too, was questioning the whole validity, and frankly reality, of the Fairy Tale. Is it our friend or foe? We had a #SexLoveChat Twitter Chat on that very topic and people had varying opinions.On a recent flight, I watched the Cinderella movie again, but, with different eyes. I quickly realized that Cinderella is actually a pretty good metaphor for finding true love … it made me think, maybe Cinderella ISN’T such a bad dating example.
Maybe Cinderella ISN’T Such a Bad Dating Example
So you probably think I’m talking crazy, right? But give me a minute to explain why I think that Cinderella isn’t such a bad dating example. I’m a firm believer of “everything happens for a reason” and “some good can come of every bad situation“. This story is a perfect example of both these things. Cinderella had such a great life until her mother died and her stepmother entered her life. Her whole world was a downward spiral after that, but, throughout her ordeal, she kept positive and held on to hope. She made the best of her bad situation and soon learned that just when it seems like all hope is lost, something good happens. All you need is patience.
She met her prince against all possible odds and from that moment, because they were meant for each other, he had eyes only for her, and she for him. But what did she do right? She didn’t play hard to get BUT was HARD TO FORGET. He couldn’t get her out of his mind. She always left him wanting more, so much so that he searched the entire kingdom just to find her. He had a ball open to all people JUST to see her again. He went out of his way just to find her, speak to her, see her. Why? Because she was hard to forget. She touched something that resonated in him and she didn’t have to chase him or wonder how he felt, she KNEW. Why? Because of the effort he put in. That’s why I say “He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not. If You Have To Ask …“.
Then there’s the Fairy Godmother. There’s always that one person who helps us achieve our goals, it could be a friend, a family member or maybe even an author, blogger or television personality … whoever it is, this person helps make your dreams come true, encourages you, teaches you and helps you on your way. We all have at least one of these. The Fairy Godmother also shows us that ordinary things and experiences can quickly become very extraordinary things and that our closest friends will be there to lend a hand, we just have to believe. Pumpkin carriage pulled by mice anyone?
So maybe Cinderella isn’t such a bad dating example. It teaches us not to lose hope. It also teaches us to let go and forgive all those who have hurt you because the universe, or karma, or God, or whatever you believe in will take care of it. Our hardship WILL be turned into something positive, we just have to believe! I will end in the final quote from the recent version of the movie that really resonated with me …
“See the world not as it is but as it could be if only you believe in courage and kindness and occasionally just a little bit of magic.”
READERS: What are your thoughts? Is Cinderella, or any other Fairy Tale, a good or bad dating example? Would love to hear about it in the comments below!
Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva
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