Have you ever looked at your life and thought, “This isn’t where I thought I’d be by now”? You’re not alone. I totally get it! Throughout my life, I have personally felt that more than once (maybe even more than I’d like to admit). But here’s the truth: you, all of us, have more power than you think. Your reality is not set in stone — it can be molded, shifted, and shaped. The key to unlocking that power lies in four simple (but profound) pillars: self-awareness, knowledge, confidence, and taking chances.

Today, I’m going to guide you through how you can start creating the reality you want in all areas of your life — love, career, relationships, and personal growth — by tapping into your power and choosing to show up for yourself – not waiting for others to create opportunities for you.

Start With Radical Self-Awareness

Creating your ideal life begins with looking in the mirror—not to critique or be hard on yourself, but to understand yourself more fully. Self-awareness is about getting honest with yourself: Who are you really? What drives you? What triggers you? What are you passionate about? Also, why have you made the choices you have already made in your life? Understanding this will help you make unbelievable changes in your life.

As I have often written in my articles and advised clients, “You can’t ask someone else to choose you if you haven’t chosen yourself first.” In the same way, you can’t ask someone to complete you if you haven’t done the work to complete yourself. Self-awareness also means choosing yourself daily. It means knowing your worth, your values, your needs, and your boundaries. This level of self-clarity gives you a foundation to make empowered decisions that align with your truth, not your fears.

Try This:
Journal for 10 minutes a day and ask yourself, “What do I want?” “What am I afraid of?” “What do I need more of right now?” Be real, be honest, and be kind. You are worth understanding! Especially by yourself!

Knowledge Is Power, but Self-Knowledge Is Freedom

We live in an era where growth information and resources are everywhere—there’s a wealth of them all around you—but transformation comes when you turn that information inward to absorb it. Read, learn, and grow—not just about the world around you and others, but about yourself. When you use all these resources to understand who you really are, what you really want, and why you do what you do, you become an unstoppable and empowered force!

Empowerment means becoming a student of yourself. In my blog posts over the years, I’ve always emphasized personal growth, because you don’t get what you want, you get what you are. Learning about attachment styles, love languages, communication patterns, and emotional intelligence has helped me and so many of my clients shift from confusion to clarity in their relationships and beyond.

When you know better, you do better. Don’t just float through life — study yourself, study your patterns, and level up your inner game.

Confidence Is a Choice You Make Daily

Confidence isn’t something you’re born with. It’s something you build — one choice, one action, one boundary at a time. Confidence is that quiet knowing that you can handle whatever comes your way. It’s the belief that you are worthy of good things, not because you’re perfect, but because you’re enough exactly as you are.

I’ve seen firsthand how confidence transforms lives. One of the most empowering things I’ve written is: “When you become the person you want to attract, you stop settling for less than you deserve.” That applies to dating, careers, friendships, and the way you talk to yourself. If you put yourself down all the time, how do you expect others to be uplifting towards you? On the other hand, when you’re confident in who you are, people will notice, and you will become a magnet for the things and people that will further uplift you.

So, how do you build confidence? You show up even when it’s uncomfortable or you don’t feel like it. Actually, show up especially when it’s uncomfortable. You keep promises to yourself. You celebrate your wins, big and small. You walk away from what doesn’t align. And you remind yourself every day that you are worthy – because you ARE!

Take the Damn Chance

Here’s the truth bomb: nothing changes if nothing changes. Creating the life you want means stepping out of your comfort zone and taking bold, aligned actions. That means risking rejection, making tough choices, and sometimes walking away from what’s familiar and comfy to chase what’s meant for you.

Are you willing to take the leap?

It’s scary, yes. But it’s also thrilling. Every empowered decision starts with a choice to believe in what’s possible instead of settling for what is already. Want a better relationship? Start by becoming a better partner to yourself. Want a new job? Update that resume and apply like the boss you are. Want an enriched life? Invest in yourself, your healing, and your dreams.

Remember: “Empowered people don’t wait for opportunities — they create them.” The reality you want doesn’t just happen. You build it, brick by brick, with every choice, every boundary, every chance you take on yourself.

You Deserve the Life You Dream Of

Stop waiting for the perfect time. Stop waiting for someone to choose you. Stop waiting for the stars to align. Start choosing you. Today. Right now.

Empowerment is an inside job. It’s the decision to take your power back and write a new story, a new narrative — one where you’re not the victim of your circumstances, but the author of your destiny.

So here’s your permission slip: dream bigger, speak louder, love harder, and take up space. You are not “too much.” You are exactly what this world needs — fully expressed, fully seen, and unapologetically fierce.

Let’s go! It’s time to level up! Your new reality is waiting.

One.Step.At.A.Time.

Suzie

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