Shout It From the Rooftops!!

Or, perhaps, maybe not.  What am I speaking about?  Well, when we meet someone new that we really like, our first instinct is to “shout it from the rooftops”.  We want to tell everyone how blissfully happy we are and how we think we’ve found our soul mate.  Well, I’m here to tell you, perhaps that’s not such a great idea.  Why, you ask?  Well for several reasons.  I’ll be talking about some of the top ones, as well as how and why you should be discreet in the early stages of any dating experience.

So why should you not tell?  Here are my top 5 reasons for not telling …

1-      You don’t know if it’s going to work out or not: if the first couple of dates are bliss it doesn’t mean it’s going to remain that way … wait until you are “officially” in a relationship before telling the world.

2-      You don’t know if they are showing their true colors: they could be putting on their best face to impress you when in reality they have something to hide (like my recent relationship with someone who turned out to be engaged to be married!)

3-      People get jealous and might try and sabotage: envy is a natural reaction of people when they see you happy (whether it has malicious intent or not)

4-      It gives you time to get to know each other without outside influence: sometimes it’s hard to really get to know the person you’re dating without other people being around giving their opinion … you need to make up your own mind and have some alone time

5-      You run the risk of TMI (Too Much Information): when you’re so blissfully happy you tend to share TMI with others about your love interest and what you’re doing and what they’re doing for you …really? No one needs to know details.

So who do you tell and not tell? You can tell your best friends or mates.  Tell whoever you are closest to and ensure they are someone who is discreet and can keep a secret.  They should not only be someone you can trust, but someone you know has your best interest at heart.  This way if you need advice or feedback, then you can trust them to give you the best advice for you because they know you.  You can trust their judgement.

Who doesn’t like a secret fling anyway? It’s fun to have your own little world for a while that no one else is a part of except the two of you.  You only have to worry about making each other happy and getting to know each other.  There’s nothing wrong with that!  I truly believe outside influences can make or break a relationship … so why take that chance?  And for goodness sake DO NOT change your FaceBook status until you both agree that you will BOTH do it and that it’s something you BOTH want to share.  Remember, there’s two in a relationship, not one.  So you want to “shout it from the rooftops”? Well, start by whispering … and make sure you’re both shouting it out together.

Your Sister in Dating Bliss,

Single Dating Diva

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