Who’s in Control – You or Your Sex Drive?


Who’s in Control – You or Your Sex Drive?

sex-driveSo you’re dating someone new, it’s only been a couple of dates and they’ve got you all hot and bothered. Whatever do you do? Do you give in to your primal urges, or, do you hold on a little bit longer? But you really want them … and … let’s face it … it’s been a while. A long while. Every time you see them all you can think of is jumping them. You just want to kiss them, touch them … you want to do bad things with them. Hmm where was I? Oh yes, so why not give in? You’re both consenting adults, right? But, you wonder, will it ruin things? Is it better to wait? Your head is hesitating, but your body is telling you to go for it. But, this isn’t a casual fling, this is potentially something real. So, I ask you … who’s in control – you or your sex drive?

Fun Facts About Your Sex Drive

Your sex drive is your libido, it’s what runs your, well, engine and keeps the juices flowing. It’s that desire for someone else that makes you want to have sex with them. Men and women both have it, but it’s thought that men’s sex drive is much stronger than women’s because of the motivations behind it. While women’s sex drive tends to stem from emotional and mental stimulus (traditionally), men’s is more visual. I was reading an article online, Sex Drive: How Do Men and Women Compare?, and they list some patterns of men’s and women’s sex drives that have been discovered via research. Some key points:

  • Men think more about sex. Well, no need to explain that one. Although most women do think about sex often, men generally think about it more.
  • Men seek sex more frequently than women, according to research cited the article. This can be anything from masturbation to various casual sexual encounters to sex with a partner.
  • Women are turned on by various different visual stimulus including all sexual orientations, while men typically are turned on by only their own preferred sexual orientation.
  • Women’s sex drives have more socio-cultural influences than men.
  • Women’s sex drive is all about the experience rather than the action, according to the article. Men, on the other hand typically are all about the action.
  • According to the article, “men who are part of a couple, 75% report that they always have an orgasm, as opposed to 26% of the women.”

So, sex drive? Yes, important. Different for men and women? Yes, of course, different, but still very much a part of who they are and what makes them tick.

Controlling Your Sex Drive?

Cold shower anyone? All this talk about sex getting you a little hot and bothered? Well, have no fear I will help you cool it down … just for a little while. There’s completely nothing wrong with thinking about sex and there’s nothing wrong with having sex, but there’s a time and place for everything! Like Spencer Burnett mentioned in my chat with him, leave something to the imagination, something to look forward to. You just have to develop some willpower. You know what your triggers are, so try and avoid them. If being alone (not in public) with the person you’re on a date with makes you lose your inhibitions, then make sure you meet in public places. I’m not saying you have to wait a long time, you’ll know when it’s right, but all I’m saying is learning to control your urges will ensure you don’t do anything you’ll regret later. Besides, if this is someone you can really see yourself with, then, why not make sure everything happens at the right time in the right way? Think about it …

READERS: Who’s in control? YOU or your sex drive? What are your thoughts on this topic?

Happy Dating!

Your Sister in Dating Bliss,

Single Dating Diva

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7 thoughts on “Who’s in Control – You or Your Sex Drive?

  1. Loved this! Just started seeing a guy and after a few dates already very sexually attracted…but its always best to take things slow, especially if its someone you see yourself with long term!


  2. YOU must be in control of your emotions, feelings and physical well being and I think through this process you are able to develop sense of awareness to whom you can trust and whom to love.


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