Tinder Dating: It Is What It Is

tinder-datingOK show of hands, how many of you are on Tinder? (or as I like to call it “the menace to society”) But, no really, in all seriousness, for those of you that don’t know, Tinder is a social app for your mobile device that allows you to meet other people in your geographic area. Essentially, it’s a “hot or not” game. Yes, you heard right, I said game. It’s categorized under “lifestyle” but really it’s a game. People see pictures, they swipe right if they like the picture and swipe left if they don’t. If you both swipe right for each other then you’re given the ability to chat. More often than not though, people don’t chat. Recent statistics report that “30% of Tinder users surveyed are married, while another 12% are in a relationship. 54% classed themselves as single, while 3% were divorced or widowed“, which raises some questions about WHY people use Tinder.

What’s the purpose of Tinder? Well, primarily it’s for social reasons, (the original intention behind the app was to be a social discovery platform) but, it’s also a place people who want to casually date or “hookup” go to meet people. A small percentage of people on there actually want to meet a life partner … yes, really, because liking each other’s pictures is now the basis for true love didn’t ya know? Well, we are dating in the age of instant gratification after all!

Tinder Dating: It Is What It Is

tinder-datingSo Tinder dating, it’s no secret that I’m not a fan, but it’s one of those things that’s here to stay so if you can’t beat ’em, join ’em, right? What is my problem with Tinder? I don’t have a problem with Tinder itself, I have a problem with how people use it. Tinder is what it is – a social networking application. It’s a great way to meet new people and broaden your horizons. It’s also a great way to practice your interpersonal skills with those you would want to date. But that’s where it stops for me. I don’t really consider it a great place to meet a life partner. Why? Well, as I mentioned before you don’t have enough about this person to make an informed decision about their potential.

Also, I hear over and over again major disappointment when someone is looking for something serious and all they meet are casual people on there. I just shake my head … umm duh! Yes of course the majority of people on there are not serious … oh ya except for your friend’s cousin’s best friend’s brother who met their spouse on there. Don’t think you’ll be the exception to the rule … Tinder is what it is – a social networking app. Just have fun with it but manage your dating expectations. I have met some pretty cool people on there, people I’m still friends with. I also met some people I’d rather never see again as well. But you take everything with a grain of salt, right?

Tinder Dating: Managing Expectations

tinder-datingA person who is really serious about meeting their life partner will more often than not be on other sites rather than Tinder. In my article about weeding through online dating profiles, I talk about using a person’s profile as a gauge of their intentions. It’s never 100% of course, but it’s a pretty solid indicator. It’s hard to take someone seriously when their primary dating method is swiping right or left. Yes, we’re visual people primarily, but then what? If you want something serious then you’re investing time potentially kissing frogs when you could be spending time finding your prince or princess. If you’re looking to meet new people, casually date or hookup with someone then Tinder is great. I love going on it when I’m out of town and meet some locals while travelling. Tinder is what it is, don’t expect more from it. If you do find love on there then that’s awesome, but don’t expect it and don’t be surprised if the people you meet just want to have sex. But you say that you heard of someone or know someone who did, well, I say just manage your expectations wherever you date and meet people. Anything is possible, never say never, yadda yadda … Just remember, dating is fun, but you need to date smart.

So tell me, why do you use Tinder? Answer the poll and see everyone’s results immediately …

Your Sister in Dating Bliss,

Single Dating Diva

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8 comments

  1. It looks like the majority of us look at Tinder the same way- I’ve never considered using it.

    Besides, after having tried several of the “real” dating sites, it sometimes feels like there are men on there for the same type of casual hook up.

    I’m still holding out hope that it’ll work out for me. Meanwhile, I’ll keep on reading. 🙂

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  2. “…you don’t have enough about this person to make an informed decision about their potential.”

    Do you ever though? Unless you start dating someone you already know, this applies to anyone you meet anywhere, be it Tinder, another online site, a bar, the grocery store, at the park…

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  3. Never tried it, no interest in it. Sadly it seems even serious sites have become hookups, even religious sites.

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  4. OK, I’m going to rock the boat a little here. I actually don’t think Tinder is worse than any other site. It is a mechanism for meeting people. That is all. And as someone said above, there are people on so-called serious dating profiles just looking for hook-ups too.

    Let’s face it. Isn’t that just like real life? The mechanism is irrelevant really. There is no quick fix. There is no perfect method or site for finding the right person. People that live nearby, people you meet in bars, colleagues, friends of friends, Facebook, Tinder, Match.com, whatever – underneath it all they are about people.

    There are lots of men and women looking for serious stuff and lots looking for hook-ups. And those looking for hook-ups will use whatever is available. Yes, Tinder is more suited to hook-ups. So as you said Suzie, Duh! But does it work for relationships that are more than just a hook-up? Yes.

    I signed up for Tinder when encouraged to do so by a female friend for a bit of fun. I am now 4 months into a relationship. So Suzie, you are right. Never say never 😉

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  5. I just read that 70% of the people on Tinder are also on Match, eHarmony, etc. It’s just another app that’s free and um, “fun” – ha!! At any rate, it’s brought online dating into the mainstream, but it’s also made dating a passe thing. I think people need a balance, which is why they still keep those online dating profiles – and this is a good thing, because online dating takes more effort. And BTW, men hate it as much as women – my friends get bombarded with fake profiles of prostitutes. It’s good times all around!

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  6. I hate Tinder and I find it very hypocrite of everyone who say they don’t go for looks and yet on Tinder swipe right or left instantly. You don’t even know the person. How can you just judge by the looks.

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    • Unfortunately online is all about looks. At least with profiles you can read too see if you match but most people look at the photo first.

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  7. WOAH. Totally interesting that the majority of votes don’t even use Tinder. They’d better step things up or they’ll be one of those flash-in-the-pan apps or services… like Friendster. LOL!!!

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