Dating Question: Is Creeping Your Dates Online Normal?

Recently, we released an all new SexLoveChat Podcast and had our #SexLoveChat on Twitter about Social Media & Dating. Listen to our podcast when we answered Is online creeping normal? … but we got such varied responses on the chat that I wanted to ask YOU my dear readers … Is creeping your dates online normal? I’ve answered before if I think it’s OK to research your date online and said that it depends on your motivation and intention behind it. So what do YOU think …

Dating Question: Is Creeping Your Dates Online Normal?

Let us know what you think and feel free to leave a comment or two about your experience!

Your Sister in Dating Bliss,

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This can be good or bad depending on what you are looking for and why. For instance one guy I was going to meet had gone to prison for sexual assault and another was married. I generally search this. The county I live in has a free search where you can look up police records. I found that the guy I’m interested in has gotten arrested on a couple of DUIs and apparently one drug misdemeanor when he was in his 20’s. Honestly, I just looked him up to see if he was married because I knew about these arrests (I found no marriage or divorce records which I doubted I would).

However I did have a situation recently that does creep me out. When I had an active profile on OkCupid I chatted with this one guy. I really wasn’t interested in him but kept my options open. I never led him on inanyway. Anyway, many months ago he found my Facebook page because of my photo. I told him I don’t friend anyone I don’t know (though have been known to friend people who share a mutual friend, I didn’t share this). I deleted my photo on OkCupid and told him I met someone I want (honestly a truth but we are just friends for now). He started getting creepy saying he’ll never find anyone, etc. Well today in my Facebook page I have another friend request from him. This is actually creepy now. I changed all my photos online and my profile is of one of my favorite shows (think popular animated shows).

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Creeping online is normal, this could also depend on when you grew up. I grew up with the internet. I always check LinkedIn, facebook, google, et al before I meet someone new in person. Safety first!

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Dawn says:

June 11, 2015 at 5:01 PM

This can be good or bad depending on what you are looking for and why. For instance one guy I was going to meet had gone to prison for sexual assault and another was married. I generally search this. The county I live in has a free search where you can look up police records. I found that the guy I’m interested in has gotten arrested on a couple of DUIs and apparently one drug misdemeanor when he was in his 20’s. Honestly, I just looked him up to see if he was married because I knew about these arrests (I found no marriage or divorce records which I doubted I would).

However I did have a situation recently that does creep me out. When I had an active profile on OkCupid I chatted with this one guy. I really wasn’t interested in him but kept my options open. I never led him on inanyway. Anyway, many months ago he found my Facebook page because of my photo. I told him I don’t friend anyone I don’t know (though have been known to friend people who share a mutual friend, I didn’t share this). I deleted my photo on OkCupid and told him I met someone I want (honestly a truth but we are just friends for now). He started getting creepy saying he’ll never find anyone, etc. Well today in my Facebook page I have another friend request from him. This is actually creepy now. I changed all my photos online and my profile is of one of my favorite shows (think popular animated shows).

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Adventuresaurus Girl says:

July 5, 2015 at 2:02 AM

Creeping online is normal, this could also depend on when you grew up. I grew up with the internet. I always check LinkedIn, facebook, google, et al before I meet someone new in person. Safety first!

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