Have you ever said “It’s fine” and then spent the whole drive home thinking about what you wish you’d said? Maybe someone cancelled on you again. Maybe you spent an hour listening to a friend and realized they never asked how you were doing. You knew what bothered you. It just felt easier to let it go in the moment.

A lot of this fall’s episodes of Signals & Standards with Suzie came out of moments like that. I talked about why we second-guess ourselves, why waiting for someone to text back can feel like chemistry, and how much we let slide when we’re afraid of losing someone. I also wanted to talk about what it’s like to be the one everyone leans on, how hard it can be to set a boundary with someone you care about, and what you notice about yourself around different people.

Tinzley Bradford joined me for a conversation about compromise and how you know when you’re settling. And yes, I did an episode about AI partners, because I can see the appeal of someone who always texts back.

If you missed an episode, I’ve got you. All nine from September and October are linked below. Pick whichever one (or two, or three) sounds a little too familiar.

NOTE: I’ve linked each episode below on Apple Podcasts, so you can go straight to the one you want. If you usually listen somewhere else, you can catch up on Signals & Standards with Suzie on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music, YouTube, Audible, iHeart, or the BTR App. Follow the show on your favourite app for new episodes every week. 💋

September 2026 | Self-trust, dating standards, and chemistry

DATE: September 1, 2026
* EPISODE: Trust Yourself Again
DESCRIPTION: Before you ask three people what they’d do, give yourself a chance to answer. I brought back this summer episode because the little decisions are where you get better at trusting your own judgment.
RUNTIME: 23 min
LINK: APPLE

DATE: September 8, 2026
* EPISODE: You Already Know. So Why Aren’t You Listening?
DESCRIPTION: You’ve read the texts again and talked yourself into giving it another week. If your best friend told you the same story, what would you tell her?
RUNTIME: 33 min
LINK: APPLE

DATE: September 15, 2026
* EPISODE: Why Your Standards Disappear When You’re Afraid to Lose Someone
DESCRIPTION: They cancel again. You type “no worries,” even though you’ve already moved things around for them twice. When you’re afraid of losing someone, it’s easy to get used to things you used to say you wouldn’t put up with.
RUNTIME: 30 min
LINK: APPLE

DATE: September 22, 2026
* EPISODE: Why Familiar Feels Like Chemistry
DESCRIPTION: I get into attachment patterns in this one. If you’re used to guessing where you stand, the relief you feel when they finally text back can feel a lot like a spark.
RUNTIME: 37 min
LINK: APPLE

DATE: September 29, 2026
* EPISODE: The Cost of Being the Strong One
DESCRIPTION: Everyone knows they can call you when something goes wrong. It can be surprisingly hard to make that call yourself and say, “Actually, I could use some help.”
RUNTIME: 20 min
LINK: APPLE

October 2026 | Boundaries, settling, and AI relationships

DATE: October 6, 2026
* EPISODE: When Empathy Hurts: Boundaries and Self-Respect
DESCRIPTION: They’ve had a rough week. You get it. You’ve also had the same conversation four times. You can care about what someone’s going through and still speak up about what needs to change.
RUNTIME: 14 min
LINK: APPLE

DATE: October 13, 2026
* EPISODE: Who Do You Become Around Them?
DESCRIPTION: Think about the last time you saw them. Did you have fun? Or were you so busy making sure they were having fun that you barely noticed? How you act around someone can tell you a lot about how comfortable you feel with them.
RUNTIME: 16 min
LINK: APPLE

DATE: October 20, 2026
* EPISODE: Are You Settling? Know the Difference! with guest Tinzley Bradford
DESCRIPTION: Tinzley Bradford and I talk about healthy compromise and the red flags we get pretty good at explaining away. If you’re always the one changing your plans or bringing up the hard stuff, it’s worth asking what they’re willing to do, too.
RUNTIME: 1 hr 5 min
LINK: APPLE

DATE: October 27, 2026
* EPISODE: Is AI Replacing Real Love?
DESCRIPTION: After a few bad dates, I can see the appeal of a partner who always replies and never gets defensive. What happens when you get used to that kind of attention and then go on a date with an actual person?
RUNTIME: 20 min
LINK: APPLE

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Watch for the signals, and never lower your standards. 💋

One.Step.At.A.Time

Suzie