Hot and then Cold, Yes and then No …

Hello Everyone! Sorry I haven’t posted in a few days … I was having Internet access issues … but I’m up and running again and have a great story to tell you ūüôā

As some of you already know, I enjoy going to the gym several times a week. ¬†As you also know, I like to go later in the day (7ish) because that’s when the hotties in the fancy cars go, and the women tend to leave by that time … so I have them all to myself LOL. ¬†Well, I AM single and enjoy watching a fit man work his muscles. ¬†Always been curious if it’s true what they say, big muscles, small ….. I digress! Lately I’ve been stared at and followed around by some not so hot guys … and smelly ones … seriously,¬†deodorant¬†people … seriously!

It was on one of these scouting expeditions that I met Mr. N (not ugly, not smelly).  He was actually quite charming, we felt an instant connection.  It was great.  We talked a couple of times before he asked me if I wanted to go for a drink or coffee after the gym one night.  I said yes, sure.  We decided to go out that night to a local trendy restaurant and have a bite.  We met up with his brother and girlfriend there (ahem one of his girlfriends, apparently he has several).  It was honestly a great time, we talked, we laughed, we ate, we drank.  Totally natural and normal.   I felt like this was probably the best first date I had ever been on.  Off to a good start?  Hell ya!  He drove me home, we sat in the car and talked for a while, then a kiss on the cheek and we agreed to meet again soon.  I was feeling quite positive about it.

Ok, there are a couple of details I’m leaving out (c’mon there has to be something weird about him!). ¬†He had an obsession with the way I smelled (I use Bath and Body Works Warm Vanilla Sugar) and I don’t use the term obsession lightly. ¬†It wasn’t only a sniff … every time we were together his nose was at my neck taking deep¬†whiffs every few minutes … like I was his favorite meal that he couldn’t wait to eat! I thought it was cute at first, but it got a little weird, especially when we were in public. ¬†But I figured, it could be worse, right? ¬†I mean this guy was CRAZY about me, and not in a creepy way. ¬†¬†He called me and messaged me often and couldn’t stop telling me how amazing and beautiful I was. ¬†He wanted to see me as much as he could. ¬†It was great to have someone like that. ¬†Especially after going out with a bunch of duds.

So this phase lasted a couple of weeks. ¬†Then all of a sudden his devotion waned and he would contact me less and less and want to see me even less than that. ¬†He eventually only wanted to stay in and watch a movie and order dinner in. ¬†Every time I asked what was the issue, he just said he was tired. ¬†Hmm whatever. ¬†I told him this wasn’t the kind of relationship I wanted and that he either wants me or he doesn’t. ¬†I tried breaking up with him twice and he wouldn’t let me. ¬†I decided¬†OK, I’ll give him another chance. ¬†Then he got totally hot for me again … totally devoted … totally wanted me. ¬†Did he change his ways? well somewhat, he even invited me over to his parents’ house for a BBQ … that’s positive right? ¬†But no, things didn’t really get better. ¬†Another few weeks of this back and forth. ¬†I was getting tired of it.

One day out of the blue he told me he was going to move out of the country. ¬†I lost it on him and then we didn’t talk for a week. ¬†Then we talked and he told me he loved me so much and that I am very special to him. ¬†I told him to go “f” himself and that was the end. ¬†I couldn’t deal with his indecisiveness. ¬†You either want me or you don’t, plain and simple. ¬†He still messages me sometimes, but I am cold with him. ¬†He doesn’t deserve my warmth … or heat! By the way, he didn’t move, he’s still here.

Lesson learned … when there’s way too much heat at the beginning it doesn’t mean there will be heat throughout! ¬†A fire that hot and that high burns out very quickly and all that’s left is the ashes. ¬†But you know me … I like playing with ¬†fire … but that’s another story!

Your Sister in Dating Bliss,

Single Dating Diva

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