We all know your milkshake brings all the boys to the yard.
The question is, will you give the milk for free or make them buy the cow?

It’s a difficult question, particularly for those of us in the casual dating world.  We all have needs right?  When does it cross the line?  It’s all about feelings and mutual understanding.  I’ve talked about special needs friends before.  I’ve also said that those kind of friends are not for the faint of heart and it can get complicated.  How can it get complicated?  Well, feelings develop on one side perhaps, or worse, the farmer gets so used to the sweet milk that he gets for free that he doesn’t bother buying the cow because the cow is giving it for free … why commit if you don’t have to?

These situations get so complicated.  I know.  I’ve been there. You start out having fun then develop feelings or it lasts longer than it should and becomes an in between “not friends, not relationship” kind of thing.  Oh I know ALL about that.  It’s not worth it.  So why even bother?  Well, what is a single girl supposed to do?  It’s not so easy to resist a charming farmer and let him taste the milk for free.  But really, it should be just a taste … a preview of what he will get when he buys the cow AND it shouldn’t be right away.  If he likes it, trust me he will want to make the purchase.  I’m not talking marriage, just being in a public committed relationship.  And what if he doesn’t want to make the purchase? Well then he’s not worth your time, someone else more deserving will come along who fully deserves your yummy milkshake!

I’m in the process of shedding my deadbeat farmer … not easy, but it has to be done … this cow isn’t going to give her milk for free anymore! Those who read my personal blog know who I’m talking about.  I found this cartoon that says it perfectly …

I’ll finish by saying “For all those men who say “why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?” here’s an update for you. Nowadays many women are against marriage. Why? Because women realize it’s not worth buying an entire pig just to get a little sausage!” ~attributed to Andy Rooney

Happy Dating!

Your Sister in Dating Bliss,

Single Dating Diva

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