What’s an excuse? Well it’s a reason or explanation put forward to defend or justify a misconduct or offense. Is it valid or not? Well that’s another question. What happens when this excuse is actually a good one that you can’t dispute? What is the difference between a good excuse and a valid reason? Where do you cross the line? I know you’re thinking, “what’s with all the questions?”. Well I’ve been mulling over these questions the past couple days. Why? You ask? Well someone has cancelled on me two weekends in a row and always has a “good excuse”. But where do I draw the line?
We all do it. We need to cancel plans … sometimes it’s for a good reason and sometimes we just have a good excuse. Personally, I am honest with the person, if I’m just feeling lazy, then I tell them. I am an honest person and I appreciate honesty as well. I just think it’s respectful and shows that you value the person if you’re honest. Usually people are understanding. Actually, it’s rare that people aren’t understanding when you’re completely honest. Then why do people lie and make excuses? I think it is because they can’t face the truth or, of course, they are just pathological liars. Some people don’t know how to tell the truth, or they are masters of “leaving information out”. They tell half-truths. I wish that wasn’t the case, but it is. You know what they say, honesty is always the best policy.
So how do you tell if someone’s giving you a good excuse or if it’s actually a valid reason? Well, assess it on a case by case basis. What is the person telling you? Do they make a habit of giving excuses? Is their reason actually a good one that is very possible or is the excuse way off the charts of believable? Do they tell you half-truths? You can always tell. No one is stupid, we all have intuition – that feeling inside that tells us the truth about a situation or person. We just choose to ignore our intuition sometimes when we want to see the good and not the bad. Be realistic.
I think my mr. good excuse is the telling half-truths kind. Perhaps I’m wrong. I hope I’m wrong, but I guess we’ll see. As I always say, words are empty … it’s the actions that count!
Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva
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