Whatever happened to just getting to know someone? Some people choose to set their standards so high that no one can meet them. Some men, and some women, have what I like to call the “Interview” in which they tick of their checklist of unattainable things they want in their prospective mate. I’m all about the not settling, but sometimes people just take it too far. That’s what happened to a friend of mine.
She met this handsome, sexy, divorced lawyer on an online dating site. He first contacted her and she replied. They had a very nice exchange. He was very nice and respectful. However, he kept referring to his “million dollar home” by the River. He kept talking about his successes and sent her his professional profile information and wanted to see what she thought, she told him it looks interesting, he seemed disappointed that he hadn’t impressed her. He started putting on his “A” game … sending her provocative messages and making insinuations. She let it slide because he seemed nice enough and she agreed to meet him for a coffee. He was very taken by her and couldn’t stop staring at her. She is quite an attractive girl. He even told her he couldn’t concentrate at work because she kept coming to his mind. He told her that he had met over 35 women online in the past 3 months. She was a little taken aback by this, but again, she let it slide. However, it did stay in the back of her mind.
I am the first to say that looks are important, I don’t care what anyone says, you need to be attracted to who you’re with. Everyone has their tastes … I like men with strong features, scruffy, longer hair … think Oded Fehr in The Mummy (OK don’t judge me). So you shouldn’t settle for someone you’re not attracted to, but don’t give them false hope either! Sometimes we meet someone that perhaps doesn’t fit what we are looking for but we still go out with them only to not want them anymore after the fact. Why bother? Really. Be honest with yourself and them. Don’t waste your time or theirs … besides don’t we all want the hottie we can’t keep our hands off of??? I know I do … now does anyone have Oded’s number? Seriously …
Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva
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