Single Dating Diva One Year Later

Has it already been a year? Wow! I can’t believe it … it’s gone by so fast.  I thought I would do a sort of retrospective of the past year.  Lessons learned and best practices …

Well, I have to be honest, I dated A LOT of people over the past year … last I counted there were at least 30 different men … now before you scream out some nasty names, I must say about 27 of them were one date wonders, so I can’t really count them in the relationship department.  But that’s still more than I could imagine ever dating in a lifetime …  it certainly made for some great stories and blog material!  Why did I date so many men?  Well, it was to learn more about men and about relationships and, most importantly, about myself.  What did I learn? Well, most of all I learned how important it was to be true to myself.  I couldn’t compromise on my values, my ethics and what I really wanted in a relationship.  But I also learned that no one is perfect and you can’t find exactly what you’re looking for, that some things are more essential than others – like respect, friendship, family and hard work.

I learned that most men just want to sleep with you and will say and do anything to get it from you … even faking a relationship with you.  But my biggest lesson was that you don’t need to sleep with someone in order for them to want to be with you because, you know what? If someone wants to be with you they will be.  Plain.  Simple.  You can make all the excuses in the world for someone and it doesn’t change anything.  If someone wants to call you they will call you, if they want to see you, they will see you.  It’s really more simple than we make it.

Another major lesson I learned is that wishful thinking doesn’t make what you want a reality.  If it doesn’t happen, and you tried, then you need to let go and move on before it’s too late and you get too attached.  It’s OK to move on, my divorce taught me that.  You will survive and live your life and meet other people … the most important thing is that you’re happy and fulfilled mentally, spiritually and emotionally.  Stop being a dreamer, live in the real world.  Hope for the best, but expect the reality or else your disappointment will be that much worse.

Over the past year I met the most amazingly intelligent, caring and loving people from all over the world.  I can’t even begin to tell you, my readers, how grateful and humbled I am by your reading my blog each and every time … for sharing my posts with others and for commenting on them.  I am also very grateful for Singles Warehouse and The Dating Sauce for giving me the opportunity to share my posts on their sites.  They have not only been colleagues but great friends.   I am a very lucky lady!

I have made some mistakes and trusted people I shouldn’t have trusted.  There are many out there who just want to take advantage of bloggers but it made me smarter and stronger.  Just like my divorce and my challenging dating experiences, they all made me who I am today.  I learned my lessons and moved forward to a better place.  I also learned that I need to surround myself with positive people and energy and it will attract positive things.

Where to now?  Well, another thing I learned was that sometimes exactly what you’re looking for is right under your nose the whole time … but perhaps you weren’t ready for it yet, or they weren’t ready for you … or it wasn’t the right time.  Either way, it’s time to explore some new paths.  Stay tuned … exciting times ahead for Single Dating Diva.

Thank you again to my lovely followers.  I wish you nothing but the best of everything life has to offer … love, happiness, prosperity and health.  May you always be surrounded with those who give you peace in your heart, mind, body and soul.  

Your Sister in Dating Bliss,

Single Dating Diva

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16 thoughts on “Single Dating Diva One Year Later

  1. New reader here. I chanced upon your blog while following the #DatingChat last week. Looking forward to going back and sifting through the archives. Congratulations on your one year.

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  2. Brilliantly said, Suzie! All things I’ve learned as well over the years. I applaud you for your willingness to share, and I’m especially grateful for your insight about sex. Too many women think that if they don’t sleep with a man in the beginning he’ll leave. Turns out, the opposite is usually true.
    Neely
    neelysteinberg.com

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  3. Love this Suzie… such a great anthology of lessons learned and reflection… that sex thing is good as @Neely said… you’d think we’d outgrow that thought (that we have to put out to get a guy) but no… here we are grown women still requiring a reminder. Thanks for the honesty and insights!

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  4. The BOMB… once again. Great read… great thoughts! AWESOME. Sharing. That’s right instead of thinking we have to PUT OUT, how about telling guys they need to PUT UP (with waiting) or SHUT UP? J/K – but I may tweet that. Great blog missy! xo

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  5. I always say that sex in the early stages doesn’t always hurt BUT it also never helps; especially in determining whether your latest date will develop into a relationship. Negative experiences turned into lessons learned is the only way to make it through the dating world or the real world, for that matter! Thank you for sharing your personal experiences with us…now we can all learn from your lessons!

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    • Thanks for your comment! I always find it’s harder to backtrack from early sex. It’s not a question of right or wrong, I think it’s more about starting on the right foot so to speak. But it’s worked for some people, so who are we to say do or don’t … but I just prefer not to.

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  6. Congratulations on your anniversary, and on lessons learned! Reaching the year mark is an amazing feeling in the bloggy world. =)

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