Did you ever feel like your life has many ups and downs? Well, yes, of course everyone’s life has ups and downs. But, did you ever feel like you were on a constant roller coaster ride? With really high highs, very low lows, some spins thrown in for the extra thrill and perhaps a vertical drop just to make it exciting? Well that fits my love life to a “T” and I’m tired of it! I’m seriously emotionally exhausted. I know, and you know, that I like it interesting and don’t like things to be too normal, but seriously, is some stability too much to ask for? Really? Even when I think I’ve hit stability the roller coaster starts rolling on its own, like it’s on auto-pilot and can’t stop.
Well, I’ve been thinking, do we create our own roller coaster or is it life in general that “happens”? Is it beyond our control or are we guilty of inadvertently pushing the “go” button on said roller coaster? Hmm … well I think it’s a bit of both. Some situations really are out of our control and there’s nothing we can do about it. I totally believe that. However, we sometimes put ourselves in situations where we set ourselves up for failure. Example? Well, if you date someone you know has a bad reputation for using and abusing but you go out with them anyway thinking they won’t do that to you, or that it might be interesting to try. They use and abuse you and then you wallow in self-pity and wonder why you have such bad luck with dating. But, why did you put yourself in that situation to begin with knowing full well that the chances of you getting hurt are higher?
So how do we stop the roller coaster and drive on level ground? Well, there are many ways. Like I said, we can’t do anything about situations beyond our control like illness, bad weather, bad luck or unforeseen commitments for work/life. What we CAN do is to stop pushing the “go” button on the roller coaster by:
- not going out with people who have a bad track record
- watching out for people who are “all talk and no action”
- not “entertaining” the idea of dating someone who is taken but in the midst of breaking up (or so they say)
- not dating someone who doesn’t have all their life ducks in a row
- being true to yourself
- not being so desperate for a boyfriend/girlfriend that you lower your standards
- end something as soon as you see warning flags
- listen to your gut instinct
- keep booty calls and casual relationships where they are and don’t get attached
- don’t be a fool!!
Another thing to keep in mind for those of you who like to put people on roller coaster rides, just because someone doesn’t call you out on your inconsistencies, it doesn’t mean they’re not on to you. I, personally, have given people enough rope to hang themselves with … and hang they did!!! So don’t be “that” person … be aware of your actions and how people are affected by them!
These are but a few of my suggestions … I am going to start taking my own advice because I am tired of the emotional roller coaster ride I always seem to be on. Now … how can I permanently deactivate that “go” button? By being TITANIUM!!!!
Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva
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