We all make mistakes, it’s completely normal to make the wrong choice once in a while. It certainly doesn’t feel good to do it and, as we know, hindsight is always 20/20, but being wrong and making mistakes is OK, especially when dating. Why? Well, it’s by trial and error that you learn. It’s by doing that you learn to do better. Your experiences change you and your outlook, sometimes for the better, but, sometimes for the worse. Only you can decide how to perceive it. But, I’m here to tell you that you should perceive it POSITIVELY. Why? Well, read on to find out.
Why Being Wrong and Making Mistakes is OK when Dating
You Learn From Your Mistakes
Mistakes are lessons learned. We don’t know if something will work for us or not unless we try it. It’s the same for everything in life … think about it, how do you know you don’t like eating a certain type of food? Well, it’s because you tried it and didn’t like it, so, next time you won’t eat it. Same goes for dating, you might have thought you liked a certain personality trait in someone but you actually didn’t when you tried, that’s OK, now you know. Don’t be too hard on yourself, just make sure it’s not a wasted opportunity. Did you sleep with someone too soon? Did you give someone the wrong impression? Did you make an error in judgment? It’s completely OK and normal. Just make sure to learn from it and not repeat it. A mistake is a growth opportunity.
You Can Always Try Again
Mistakes aren’t the end of the world. If you made the effort to put yourself out there and date, or, meet other people and it didn’t work out for you the first time then it’s OK to try again. There is a world of possibilities out there, you just have to keep trying. You might need to adjust your methods or approach but if you keep tinkering at it eventually it will work. Dating is a work in progress. Even if you feel you humiliated yourself don’t be too hard on yourself, try again and keep trying and tinkering until it works.
It Inspires You To Do Better
No one is perfect, I know, I know, it’s hard to believe, but, it’s true. Everyone makes mistakes. When you do, you know how it feels to fail and you need to take that energy and turn it into motivation to succeed. There is no better inspiration than rejection. Personally, just tell me I can’t do something or accomplish it and it will motivate me to do it and be the best at it. Take it from me, you can do better and mistakes help pave the way.
Believe me, I’ve made TONS of mistakes over the course of my life … both in my choice of spouse and in those I’ve dated. But, instead of letting it bring me down and live in a perpetual pity party I CHOSE to take those lessons and not make them again. Not only has it made me much stronger and smarter, it has taught me exactly what I want in a partner. Not too shabby is it?!
You need to realize and accept that others can make mistakes too … no one is perfect and sometimes it’s OK to give someone another chance when they’ve had a dating misstep. Just listen to your gut and use your judgment when deciding to let something pass.
Being wrong and making mistakes is OK when dating. So TAKE that chance and if you fall then pick yourself up, dust yourself off, learn from your mistake and try again. There’s a whole world of adventure just waiting for you to experience it … so go out there and have fun dating!
What dating mistakes have you made recently? Did you learn anything from it? I’d love to hear about it in the comments!
Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva
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