Have you ever been encouraged to “give someone a chance” or perhaps “try them on for size”? Maybe everyone told you you’re too picky and you want to prove them wrong. I think most people can say yes they have. Perhaps you didn’t “feel it” with someone who’s perfectly fine but it just wasn’t what you were looking for, or perhaps you’re just unsure about them because there’s something interesting but they aren’t quite what you were looking for. Whatever the case may be, sometimes you’re compelled to perhaps rethink your choices, and, try again. But when is it giving someone a chance and when is it leading them on when dating? Well it all starts with intentions, expectations and above all motivation. I’ll explain.
Dating and Giving Someone a Chance
When you’re giving someone a chance, perhaps you weren’t “wow’d” right away or not attracted physically to them but there was something about them that intrigued you, something you wanted to learn more about. Sometimes too, you might have a list of things that are important to you in a partner but this person doesn’t meet them, but for some reason you liked them anyway. There could be a lot of reasons you don’t consider them as having dating potential right away, but, you don’t rule them out completely either. This is when giving it a few more dates might help you make the decision to stay or to go. But at some point you either have to “shit or get off the pot“, or else it could be leading them on…
Leading Them On When Dating
You’re leading them on when you really have no attraction to them and no interest in really pursuing anything. You’re just in it for the attention or the company or to pass the time, or, even worse, until something better comes along. I don’t have to tell you how wrong this is. Leading someone on when you have absolutely no intention of anything with them is hurtful, disrespectful and bad karma. When you’re leading them on you’re wasting your time and wasting their time and that isn’t fair to either of you. If you know you’re not as interested as they are and they want much more than you’re willing to give, then it’s time to cut the cord.
So there you have it, is it giving someone a chance or is it leading them on. You decide. Just make sure whatever decisions you make you always take the other person’s feelings into account. You don’t want to be THAT person now do you? I didn’t think so.
READERS: Have you ever been put in the situation where you’re not sure whether you’re giving someone a chance or leading them on when dating? What did you do? Have ever been led on by someone who’s trying YOU on for size? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below.
Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva
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