Normally, people will advise you to just move on and find someone else after a breakup. But sometimes, you know deep in your heart that the relationship with your ex was something special and it’s definitely worth giving another chance.
How To Get Your Ex Back After a Breakup In 3 Steps
Step 1 – Stopping Contact With Your Ex
Even though ever fiber of your body will want to call your ex and try to convince them to come back, the best course of action right now is to stop contact with your ex. I know it sounds a little counter intuitive but if you think about, it makes more sense than bombarding them with text messages and phone calls. When you don’t contact your ex, you are giving them an opportunity to miss you. You are giving them an opportunity to reflect upon the relationship. If you are constantly calling them and texting them, they will see your behavior as neediness and start pulling away. The more you push, the more they will pull away. It’s a simple law of relationships.
When you stop pushing, your ex is going to start thinking that they will lose you forever. The thought of losing you forever might be enough for your ex to want to get back together. If it’s not enough, well, we still have two more steps, don’t we?
Step 2 – A Little Soul Searching
This step might not seem very important to most people, but it’s actually the most important thing you can do right now. See, even though you might be convinced that getting your ex back is the only thing you want in your life, it could be a bad decision. It could be that you are just going through the bargaining stage of grief after breakup. Perhaps, your relationship with your ex wasn’t really as good as you are making it out to be.
When your mind is in chaos, it becomes hard to see things clearly. You must give yourself a little time calm down and think things through. Maybe you will realize that you are better off without him.
Do things that you enjoy. Make some positive changes in your life. Go out on a few dates (hint: online dating is great after breaking up) and try to become a happy person without your ex. You have to realize that you don’t need your ex to be happy. Maybe you still WANT them back, but even if you don’t get them back, you will still lead a happy and wonderful life.
Step 3 – Re-attracting Your Ex
If you’ve completed step 2 and have actually started living a happy life without your ex, then you’ve completely gotten rid of your neediness. And with this new found confidence, you are ready to re-attract your ex into your life again. The first thing you need to do is re-initiate contact with your ex. Ask them out for a simple coffee and take things slowly from there. If you have made a few positive changes in your life, then your ex will become ten times more attracted to you than they were before. Seeing you in a new light will re-ignite their feelings for you and this will probably make them want to get back together. And even if they don’t, you are still OK with it because you don’t need your ex to be happy.
K Thompson from GetYourExBackPermanently.com helps people find love again after a breakup. He believes that some relationships deserve another chance while some relationships deserve to end permanently.
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