What’s Your Flirting Style? Science Weighs In…

flirting-style-single-datingI found this fascinating survey online about “flirting styles”. Apparently, according to a study out of the University of Kansas there are five styles of flirting (discussed in this article by Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph.D. published in Psychology Today). According to the researchers, people have a “unique dispositional manner of communicating romantic interest”  which really means they have different styles of flirting that are demonstrated in how they are acting. So, essentially, your personality plays a major role in your flirting style. That makes a lot of sense. How you flirt also determines how successful you are at getting at your desired goal, whether it’s sex or a date or even just attention. We all have a different flirting style, that’s the obvious part, but what isn’t so obvious is why we do what we do. Sometimes we inadvertently send the wrong message to people we’re communicating with because really we’re looking for attention or we like the way it makes us feel. That’s why it’s so important to know what you’re flirting style is in order to attain your desired results as well as avoid any awkward situations. So what’s YOUR flirting style? Read on to find out…

What’s Your Flirting Style? Science Weighs In…

The following are the 5 flirting styles (as outlined in the above-mentioned article):

  1. Physical
    Physical flirts focus on non-verbal behavior as a dominant flirting technique.
    In [the study], women who described themselves as physical flirters indeed tended to “open up” their bodies by moving their hands out and away from their torsos, and nod their heads often during conversation. Surprisingly, men who described themselves as physical flirts and felt attracted to their partners looked at them less and rarely gave them compliments.
  2. Traditional
    Traditional flirts essentially believe that men should make the first move if they’re interested.
    Accordingly, as shown in the study men who saw themselves as fitting this type were more likely to lean toward their partner while traditionally flirtatious women used verbal teasing as their means of communication.”
  3. Sincere
    Sincere flirts are really genuine and honest about their interest and this makes other people trust you more easily.
    Behaviorally, as shown in this study, you’ll be less likely to tease (especially if you’re a man) and more likely to exchange flirtatious gazes early in your meetings with strangers.”
  4. Polite
    Polite flirts are usually more formal in their flirting style and, usually, take their time when they’re interested.
    “As shown by [the study], even if you’re physically attracted to someone, you won’t make a move to get closer, you won’t engage in teasing, and (if you’re a woman) you won’t even ask too many questions.”
  5. Playful
    A playful flirt enjoys the game but isn’t really in it for the relationship. If you fit this profile, you’re not really sincere about getting to know the other person and you may even be using the flirtation as the means to another end (such as getting someone to do you a favor). Without even realizing it, you may be sending physical signals such as protruding your chest (whether male or female) but if you’re a woman, you’ll flash the flirtatious gaze especially once the interaction gets going.”

So what’s YOUR flirting style? Click HERE to take their survey it only takes a few moments. What’s MY flirting style? Well, those who know me and have read my writings know that, although I think all types of flirting are great, I definitely fall firmly into the “Traditional” camp! I prefer it when a man pursues me and rarely have done any pursuing, however, I definitely show subtle signs of interest to encourage them. That’s how I got my guy! I’m also a very physical / touchy-feely kind of person so I do tend to use body language in my flirting communication a lot as well.

Here are my dominant results from the survey:


Traditional Style: very traditional

Scored higher than 80–90% of other survey takers in my demographic.

They said: “You strongly believe that men should make the first move and women should not pursue men. You are very likely to feel uncomfortable in a flirting situation where a woman takes charge. You tend to be very choosy about who you flirt with, and it is very likely that you are selective about who you pursue romantic relationships with. In serious relationships, you strongly believe that you should know a potential relationship partner for a long time before approaching them. You are very likely to seek out important and meaningful romantic relationships.”

Physical Style: somewhat physical

Scored higher than 70–80% of other survey takers in my demographic.

They said: “You are somewhat comfortable and competent in expressing your interest to potential partners. You are somewhat capable of figuring out that potential partners are interested in you, and somewhat effective at conveying romantic interest to potential partners. In your last serious relationship, it was somewhat likely that you felt attracted right away, were successful when you flirted using your body language.”


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READERS: What’s your flirting style? I’d love to hear about it in the comments below, especially if you took the survey & answered my poll!! 

Your Sister in Dating Bliss,

Single Dating Diva

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  1. I don’t know what my flirting style is.Oddly I have had men think I was flirting when I wasn’t.


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