OK so we’ve all seen that ugly woman with the gorgeous man … or even the gorgeous woman with the ugly man … AND we’ve all given it a double take … we had to look twice and wondered what the hell is HE doing with HER??? First thought that comes to mind is unattractive guy must be rich and generous or unattractive woman must be really good in bed hoover style. You know I’m right! One guy I’ve had an eternal crush on has a relationship with a very unattractive women (actually for the longest time I thought she might be a man). She has “boyish good looks with a boyish figure” and he likes to gravitate to and is very attracted to beautiful curvy women when he’s not with her, well even when he’s with her. Explain that one to me?! How about one other couple I know, he is wealthy hollywood-esque hotness and she, well, let’s say she’s homely, socially awkward and picks her nose in public – he bought her a very expensive car recently. Hmmm … back to the topic at hand … can these interfacial relationships work? In other words, is love really that blind?
I’m of the opinion that looks do matter, as does attraction. Actually, physical attraction is a requirement. I really don’t care what anyone tells you … if someone isn’t attracted to you on the get go then the whole thing is doomed. Your killer personality isn’t going to get you anywhere in the dating world. I talked about it in my post Is Love Blind? Do Looks Actually Matter?. We see it on TV, in the movies and everywhere, the attractive person is the one everyone wants to be with, it’s the one they choose. That being said, attraction means different things to different people. Someone might just find their partner attractive while everyone else doesn’t … there is SOMETHING about them. What do I say to that? Well, why the hell not!
Can You Date Up?
I will be the first to admit that I’ve had some very unattractive men who have wanted to date me but because I really don’t find them attractive in any way, I have turned them down. I know, bad Suzie. But, physical attraction is extremely important to me. They don’t have to be the most attractive man in the world but they DO have to be attractive to me. I have to want to jump their bones, no doubt about it!! Now, let’s all be honest here, who doesn’t want the partner that’s arm candy? The partner that everyone will be jealous of? We all do, but there are more important things, so as long as I’m attracted to them and they have, I mean are, a good package then we’re good to go.
If someone is “out of my league” looks wise, I usually don’t go there … I don’t want to risk rejection. Many women and men do attempt the date up and end up rejected and feeling like the scum of the earth and hate every single man or woman in the world because of it. Well, perhaps, just perhaps, if we dated within our league we wouldn’t have that problem. So, I don’t recommend attempting the date up, or have low expectations when trying.
Back to our question, can interfacial relationships work or are they doomed to fail? Sure they can work, don’t they say “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”, so if the couple doesn’t care about what anyone else has to say it might just be a success, but, as we all know, society in general will judge, let’s be honest.
What do you think? I’d love to hear your opinion in the comments!! Have you been in an interfacial relationship?
Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
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