Haven’t we all wondered at some point if someone likes us “that” way, or, if they are just being friendly. If someone really does like you shouldn’t they tell you? How much stake should you put in someone’s “shyness”? One of my readers was having this very dilemma recently, here’s what I advised.
Does He Like Me or Is He Just Being Friendly?
Dear Single Dating Diva,
One of my male acquaintances has been showing me a little more interest than usual. He flirts with me all the time, he pays me more attention than anyone else when we are at parties, he sits next to me when he can, he gets me drinks when we’re out, he loves to talk to me and texts me often just to say hi, he talks good about me to everyone, he’s always so considerate of my needs and he even got me a gift on my birthday. All these things, but, he hasn’t made any effort to take things further. Sometimes I even notice him glancing at me and smiling. I’m so confused, does he like me or is he just being friendly? How do I know?
Dear Cordially Confused,
Thank you for your question. I can see why you’re confused, you feel like you are getting mixed messages from this guy. I assume that you like him too (that’s why you’re asking). Well, I think that he definitely holds you in high regard, enjoys your company and, yes, he seems to like you as well. How much he likes you and if he has intentions towards you is still up for debate. Sometimes people really are just being friendly and we read too much into it. We see what we want to see and not what’s really there. Wishful thinking? Perhaps.
All the things that you have listed are good signs, but they can also be that he just thinks you are a great person and that he likes you as a friend. There’s only one way to find out if he likes you or if he’s just being friendly. Yes, you guessed it, just ask him. I know your heart just dropped to your ankles. It’s not an easy thing to do, I know, I’ve been there. So, I will give you an easier way than to outright ask him.
You need to show him your interest. You can do this by encouraging him. Return his glances and smiles (try the 5 second flirt). Text him to see how he is and wish him a good day. Be gracious and show that you accept and appreciate all the things he does for you and things he says positively in your regard. That should give him the encouragement, if he is interested, to do something about it.
If that doesn’t work, then, suggest a date that you think you both might enjoy. Just say (for example) “did you know so and so is playing at so and so bar and I know you like them, let’s go see them together?” or “you were mentioning that you like so and so food, there’s this new place that opened up in so and so I wanted to try it and it would be great if you joined me” or even “it’s such a beautiful night, would you like to join me for a walk?”. However you say it, do it in the way that is most comfortable for you.
This is the only way to find out. You might get the answer you want or perhaps you will be disappointed, either way you’ll know and will stop wondering. That is what matters most.
Hope this helps!
What do you think? What advice would you give? Do you think he likes her or just being friendly? What about you? Have you been in that situation? I would love to hear about it in the comments below!
Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva
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