I’ve had lots of discussion lately with people about dates they’ve gone on and have even ventured out on my own. Their stories made me wonder, what makes a good date and what makes a bad date? What is the turning point? How do we really know that we want to see someone again?
Good Date vs Bad Date: What’s the Difference?
To me a good date is one that makes me not even notice the time pass. The conversation is good, I laugh, I feel an attraction and I don’t want it to end. A bad date is one that I wonder why on earth I’m there, I can’t wait until it’s over, it’s awkward and just a negative vibe all around. But what do I know? So I asked around! Here is what people told me …
- Instant attraction
- Makes you smile
- Makes you laugh
- Conversation flows
- Date is a good listener
- Eye contact
- Things in common
- Doing something like an activity
- Date is considerate
- Makes you feel special
- Proud to be with date
- Ego boost
- Want to jump their bones
- It just feels right
- You want to kiss or hug them
- Person is weird
- Creepy vibe
- Bad / forced conversation
- Date looks at other people
- Feeling undervalued
- Date has bad hygiene
- Date misrepresented themselves online
- Date doesn’t look like picture
- Date has obvious baggage and talks about it
- You’re repulsed by their habits (the way they eat, drink, etc)
- Date treats other people poorly
- You don’t want to even touch them
- Date tries to take advantage of you
So there you have it, I’m sure this isn’t an exhaustive list but essentially, each person has their standards and things they need in order to click with someone, and, hopefully it’s mutual. You either “feel it” or you don’t then it’s really up to you whether or not you want to see them again. Each date is an experience and a lesson learned either way, that’s why it’s important to go on many dates with various types of people, you never know, you might be pleasantly surprised!!
Readers: What’s a Good Date vs Bad Date? I would love to hear your stories in the comments!
Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva
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Good date: the 1 it takes for coffee flies by and you don’t want to run screaming when the say “I’ll call you” or whatever
Bad Date: the 20min it takes to get seated is long enough and you’re already planning your exit line before you’ve ordered coffee
Really Bad Date: you climb out a bathroom window on the second floor of a building, shimmy down the drain pipe and texted them from the car telling them never to call you (yes it happened)
I cannot begin to tell you the number of first dates I’ve had with guys I met online — who seemed fairly normal from their profile — until they launched into an extended monologue in person, never asking me anything about myself or pausing for breath. It’s as if they hadn’t been stranded on a desert island and hadn’t spoken to anyone in a year. In the past, I’ve been too polite to abruptly get up and leave, but “no more Ms. Nice Guy.” In the future, when this happens, I’m making a quick exit after 20 minutes. And if I were braver – and were assured they weren’t a stalker or a raving lunatic, I’d tell them why…
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