Why Sending Naked Pictures of Yourself Is A Bad Idea

It’s all over the news. Someone hacked into the iCloud accounts of several celebrities and leaked their naked pictures online. Naughty naughty. Now social media is abuzz with the story. But how could this happen? Well they’re saying it was due to a flaw in iCloud and its safety is being questioned. Other programs have their hacks as well. People used to think “Snapchat” was safe because the photo disappeared after a few seconds, but there’s a way around that. What does that tell us? Well it tells us that your data is never really safe, regardless of what you do to prevent a “leak”. Don’t ever be naive. So how do you ensure your private parts remain, well, private? Well, that’s simple – by keeping them private. No I’m not a prude but I do prefer to take the cautious route and I suggest that you should too. Here’s why.

Why Sending Naked Pictures of Yourself Is A Bad Idea

I wrote about sexting and sending naked pictures a while back when a friend of mine felt the need to show me his phone collection of women’s vaginas. I turned him away but these were women he asked and agreed to send him pictures of their vagina. Some were his conquests, some not, but all in all he had A LOT of pictures. These women could be someone you know (actually some were women I knew he said!) but why did they do this? All in good fun right? WRONG. Why wrong? Because he was showing these photos to me, and no doubt, he’s shown them to others too. How many of you ladies have received unsolicited penis pictures? C’mon show of hands … yup, that’s what I thought, most of you have. I will even hazard a guess that you men have sent them too. Why?

Recently I met a guy who felt it necessary to tell me he had an unusually large, um, anaconda, yup he said that. I said “OK good for you”. He kept insisting that it was really really big. I said “good for you”. He asked if I wanted to see it and I said no. Now we all know where this is going … yup, he snapped a pic and sent it to me. Gee thanks (yes it was really big by the way LOL). Anyway, did that make me want him more? Nope, it actually didn’t entice me one bit and dropped his classy factor to zero. Why do guys feel the need to do that? I mean really? At least I sort of knew it was coming. Worse yet are those who send them when you least expect it. No one, I mean no one, needs an unsolicited penis pic.

Sending naked pictures is a bad idea because you can’t control them once you hit send. You have absolutely NO IDEA what anyone will do with them. He might show them to his friends. They might get “accidentally” released somehow. They might mysteriously appear one day when you least expect it and you’re competing for that promotion at work. You never know, even if you take every precaution. In the heat of the moment it might seem like a good idea to send that naked picture but it really really isn’t. Even if it’s to your trusted partner, they don’t always have control either.

How To Entice Your Partner Without Sending Naked Pictures

naked-picturesOn the most part people send naked pictures to entice their partners and give them a preview of what’s to come. There’s nothing wrong with giving your partner something to think about while they’re at work or away. I think it’s part of a healthy relationship and a good thing, but be smart about it. Why don’t you describe what you’d like to do to them. Step by step. Or, you can send them a few lines from an erotic novel and say “thinking of you”. Trust me the imagination is very very sexy and planting a seed can make their imagination run WILD!

If you want to add a picture, maybe add your thigh or your bra strap or dropping your panties or something that leaves a lot to the imagination. Men maybe send your bulging crotch or your chest or a part of you she likes to touch. After getting the mental and visual stimulation, they will want to jump you the moment they see you. If you’re in a long distance relationship or your partner is away, instead of sending naked pictures use Skype or Facetime or another video chat program … this way you get the whole package of sight AND sound, what’s better than that!?

So see, naked pictures are not necessary. You just need to get creative. It’s in your best interest to play it safe when it comes to your reputation. Maybe you’re not a celebrity but naked pictures could ruin your life one day. It’s your choice what you do, but do me a favor and think about it. You’ll be glad you did!

Your Sister in Dating Bliss,

Single Dating Diva

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  1. Reblogged this on Like Crazy and commented:
    I’d been contemplating sending my boyfriend pictures and even though I know HE wouldn’t do anything with the, SDD is right: “they [S.O.] don’t always have control either.” Needless to say, I forwarded her post to T and am staying away from the naked-side.


  2. This is one I’m honestly conflicted about. Sexting can be a great way for a couple to connect sexually outside the bedroom. I hate to tell people not to sex just because it might fall into the wrong hands. I feel like that’s sort of like blaming the victim. On the other hand, it often can fall into the wrong hands. And it’s just safe not to. I like your points here to send pics that are still sexual but leave a lot to the imagination. Great way to solve a problem Diva!


  3. Two words: Pre-Sexting Agreement. SImilar to a Pre-Nuptual agreement, this should be IRON CLAD and let the person know that if your photos turn up anywhere or are seen by anyone else and you can prove it, you will SUE HIS (or her) ASS. How’s that? I agree. If you’re in a relationship – USE WHAT YA GOT to enhance the fun… but if that relationship ends, you have to be SMART about the stuff that person has in their hands now… and I say be PROACTIVE!


  4. on the other hand, I also do NOT think it’s a useful tool to entice someone to date you. PLEASE do NOT send me a picture of your dong. I will immediately delete you.


  5. I do really like your advice on enticing without nude pictures. However, I’d like to believe that if you’re in a committed, healthy, long term relationship that it would be okay to do. Maybe I’m naive and have too much trust that people won’t share them (cuz yes, I have them floating around out there on ex’s phones and just hope to god that he was the man I thought he was and he has enough respect not to share). But otherwise, sharing nudies with people you’ve just met or just hooked up with is generally not a good idea until you get to know them and develop trust.


  6. Yes! I stopped sending nudes after I realized my ex was a total liar and so if he lied about the small stuff, he would definitely lie about nudes. I find that guys who ask for nudes aren’t interested in an actual relationship, they just want variety to add to their porn stash.


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