The world is filled with rotten people. The world is filled with selfish narcissists. The world is filled with relationship teases. The world is filled with people who hurt others. The world is filled with people who have no clue what they want. The world is also filled with people with copious amounts of baggage. I’ve written before how I feel like my dating life is like dating from the “dating bargain bin“. We all know what’s in the bargain bin don’t we?
The bargain bin is where retailers throw the merchandise that’s damaged, broken or doesn’t sell, the merchandise nobody really wants but settle for because they just MAY have potential for repair. There’s also the product that may have had the best marketing ploy ever and sold to unsuspecting people only to be returned because the product was a piece of crap. How about the product that just doesn’t function normally regardless of how much you try and make it work? It looks and acts normal, or so it seems, then, out of the blue it decides to crap out on you.
ALL bargain bin material … and THAT is the dating pool my friends. So what do you do when dating is so messed up these days? Well … you deal the best way you can and keep trudging through the muddy murky waters until you find something good. Not so easy, I know, but you have to keep trying and develop a very thick skin.
Dating Is So Messed Up These Days … This Is Why
So why is it that we’re left with this bargain bin? Why is dating so messed up these days? It’s because of two things:
1. People are addicted to being entertained
This makes their appetites for excitement insatiable. They are addicted to the excitement that comes from the early days of a new relationship. People don’t want to live in the real world, what they want is a virtual world where there’s no problems, nothing that needs working through. It’s dating in the age of instant gratification at its worst. There are so many “options” that no one wants to miss out on anything, as such, they set these unrealistic standards for themselves and others, leaving a path filled with broken hearts, confusion, people feeling used and abused. It’s no one’s job to be your circus clown. It’s time to ditch the dating ADD (attention deficit disorder) and grow the fuck up.
2. No one wants to try to make things work
This is something I’m noticing more and more. When it comes to relationships, no one wants to try, why? Because that takes effort. There are so many short lived relationships these days it’s impossible to keep up. They are always looking for problems and miss the good stuff right in front of their eyes. Once the fireworks have died down and two people start cozying into a regular routine many run for the hills because they want that excitement again, so they start over with someone new and have the “WOW” moments until they settle into normal and then the dirty cycle starts again. Talk about exhausting!!
Dating Is So Messed Up These Days … Is There Hope?
Well, I’m not sure there’s much hope unless people make a conscious decision to change. It’s the way the world is these days. There ARE lots of great single people out there and you’ve dated them!! They treated you great and you loved being with them until things got to a “REAL” place and they ran for the hills when shit got real. You know I’m right. I challenge people to stop being so petty and to stop living in a fantasy world where everything has to be a certain way. The person you’re dating isn’t a circus performer and they don’t have to always entertain you. Why don’t you try building a life together for a change? Imagine that!? Imagine a world without bargain bins!? Where everyone actually is a quality product who have good intentions for others. Imagine that …
READERS: What are your thoughts on the topic? Is dating messed up these days? Why? Is there hope? Share your thoughts in the comments below!
Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva
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