Imagine. You’re still frazzled after rushing home from work and frantically getting ready for another date. The butterflies inhabiting your stomach mean you aren’t the slightest bit hungry and you’re petrified that the first whiff of alcohol will have you blabbering like a buffoon because of your empty stomach.
You’ve seen a picture, yes. Is it up-to-date? Photoshopped? Or worse – downloaded from the internet? The taxi shows up late, the wind blows you to smithereens walking across the short distance to the venue, and you really hope that this isn’t going to be a colossal waste of time. Your mind reels. Is this really worth it? Sound familiar? It sort of takes the excitement out of the whole thing a little bit, doesn’t it?
Instead, picture this. You saunter home from work and nonchalantly grab a snack. If you’re in an indulgent mood, envisage that perfect sandwich [cue picture that is already in your head]. You don’t feel nervous. You are calm as a Hindu cow. You prepare slowly and with precision. When all is done, you have time to sit back, relax, and have a small glass of wine to prepare you for the date.
How do you turn picture one into picture two? Skype! One of the greatest wonders of our digital age. All of those pre first date worries withering on the vine. Here’s why.
8 First Date Problems Solved By Skype
1. Will I even fancy them?
What do they look like? Skype doesn’t have a Photoshop function. You get to see the person as they are. First big question answered with no hassle or time wasted.
Let’s face it. There is always a worry that the person you are going to meet is a potential Norman Bates. You’ve swapped messages, had a few phone calls, but you haven’t looked this person in the eyes. No chance yet to assess facial expressions and body language. Are they shifty? Do they avert their gaze on answering certain questions?
3. Is there a brain between the ears?
Skype allows you to quickly and easily assess if this person can even hold a 30 minute conversation. If not and it starts to get unbearable it is much easier to launch your reason for leaving early than in a physical setting. If you find after three hours you’re still talking, well, I think that’s a great sign isn’t it?
4. Grab their full attention
When you’re out and about there are so many other distractions. Sounds, sights and smells. The assault on the senses can be very distracting when you are overwhelmed with nerves and oversensitive to external stimuli. The great thing about Skype is you control the environment. You have the full attention of the other person. Which is the whole point of a date, right?
5. No tragically embarrassing moments
That first time we meet someone our bodies decide to mess with us just for fun don’t they? Inexplicably, we are sweating more than usual. Our fingers forget how to carry out basic functions like holding a fork. And our feet after years of being happily separated decide they want to become more intimate with each other, causing us to stumble over bags, table legs, steps or thin air! Switch on Skype, sit in your chair, and talk. Problem solved.
6. Should I kiss or hug at the end?
Well you can’t, can you? So, no need to even worry about it. Problem solved.
7. Being stood up
Yes this can still happen, but you’ve wasted less time. No-one else is looking at you. You aren’t having the Mexican stand-off in your head about whether you should wait a little longer or just leave now. Instead, you can sit back and polish off that bottle of wine you opened in the comfort of your own home.
8. Money Money Money
Dating is expensive. Simple things like taxi’s, a few drinks, a meal, etc can start to take its toll. If you have been dating a while then this starts to add up. Skype is low cost, low risk, but potentially a massive gain. It’s not about being cheap. You just don’t want to waste money on any more weirdoes, right? Spending money on the right person doesn’t get questioned. It’s wasting it on the duds that will start to hold you back.
Checking Chemistry & Connection
This takes a bit of time, yes? Why not set up two or three Skype dates before meeting in person? That additional familiarity will make the first meeting in person incredibly less nerve-wracking. Obviously if your date lives nearby or is a colleague, different rules apply. That would just be weird. Treat it like a normal date. Be on time. Talk about the things you normally would. Be yourself. Most importantly, have fun with it!