The more you date, the more you start determining your own personal laundry list of what you want and what you don’t want in a potential partner. What you don’t want quickly becomes your “dating deal breakers.” We’ve all got dating deal breakers, those things we can’t stand in a potential partner and make us run for the hills.
From unemployment to body type to lying to cheating, we all have a hidden list of dating don’ts that help us keep our eyes on the prize and away from those less than perfect potential partners. They’re the stop signs in romance that prevent us from going any further. When you’re looking for “the one,” you can’t just settle for anyone, right? Even though dating sometimes feels like we’re scraping the bottom of the bargain bin, we all know that those small annoyances could become something much bigger down the line. So what are the most common dating deal breakers? Keep reading to find out!
Breaking Down the Dating Deal Breakers
Everyone has certain things that annoy them or make them squirm. When asked for their non-negotiable dating pet peeves that make them run for the hills, daters responded with the following deal breakers:
- can’t hold down a job or is not financially independent
- is all talk, no action
- is painfully frugal
- is flirtatious
- is abusive verbally, physically or emotionally
- treats you negatively in public
- constantly lies to you
- continuously criticizes you
- doesn’t have your back
- pulls a disappearing act without communicating with you
- has problems with substance abuse
- has a problem with infidelity
- has unpacked baggage and bitterness from previous relationships
- has bad hygiene
- is rude to service staff
- doesn’t have good relationships with others such as friends and family
- is clingy
- lacks ambition
And the list can go on and on. Those are all awful qualities that no woman or man wants to encounter in a potential partner. But at the end of the day, we care less about petty nuisances and more about having someone who’s real at every moment and, in all things, has their life in order. Essentially, dating deal breakers are about or should be about, someone not meeting your fundamental values and needs. We can all agree that respect, honesty, good communication, and trust are what is most important in a relationship. If the person you’re dating doesn’t have those qualities, it’s fair to say your relationship may be doomed.
Not sure what your own dating deal breakers are or if you’re being unreasonable? Consider what sort of traits or habits you absolutely cannot tolerate in a potential partner. Think of personal pet peeves you can’t even imagine having in your romantic life. Whatever drives you insane is a deal breaker. Establishing those unacceptable trademarks will help you weed out the bad apples from the delicious dates that could lead to great relationships. If you can’t stand someone because something they do, why waste your time on them? Your ultimate goal is to live a life that is full of happiness and romantic bliss. Never settle for anything less!
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Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva
Originally appeared on eHarmony Canada.