It’s spring! You know what that means? It means it’s time for spring cleaning! So why not spring clean your dating life? Each and every relationship we have left their mark on us whether we want to admit it or not. But, it’s what we do with this mark that makes all the difference. Let’s face it, we all have baggage, some more than others, but we all have it and relationship baggage can weigh you down and get in the way of having a happy fulfilling life alone or with someone else. This is why it’s time to open the windows and air out your dating life to open yourself up to your very own happily ever after.
5 Tips to Spring Cleaning Your Dating Life
Every experience in life that we have is a learning experience. The older you get the more baggage you take on and the more experiences you have under your belt. They have made you who you are! Dating is a learning process. You need to sharpen your skills, one date at a time, and one relationship at a time. The key is being true to you and then it becomes easier to brush everything else off like it was nothing. This is the key to spring cleaning your dating life.
- Choose Happiness
Spring clean your dating life by choosing happiness! Choosing happiness above all things will ensure that nothing will bother you so much that it will trip you up. I’ve said many times before that in order to be happy and fulfilled in a relationship, you have to be happy and fulfilled on your own. Don’t let whatever happens get you down. No doubt dating can be frustrating and discouraging, but you can choose to let it get to you or you can choose happiness.
- Let It Go
Spring clean your dating life by letting it go! There is so much you go through when you’re dating. Bad date after bad date, disappointment after disappointment, can get you down but it’s what you do with it that is most significant. Not everyone is going to be nice, not everyone is going to have your best interests in mind, but that’s about them and not about you. Be strong and move on, let nothing stick to you and try not to take everything personally. This will help you be less cluttered with baggage.
- Be Grateful
Spring clean your dating life by being grateful! Having an attitude of gratitude will revolutionize your life as a whole. By being grateful everything negative that crosses your path suddenly becomes insignificant. How? When you see how much you have to be grateful for, the positive will far outweigh the negative every time. Start your day off by taking a moment to think about or write down 3-5 things you’re grateful for, after a week you will see how the sun seems to shine brighter in your life. Be grateful for bad dates and experiences because they also teach you something, be grateful for the little things, like catching every green light or seeing someone you missed. Be grateful for EVERYTHING and you will attract MORE good things to be grateful for. It works! Try it!
- Look Good
Spring clean your dating life by looking good! Always, always put your best foot forward. I shouldn’t have to keep reminding people this, but I really do. This doesn’t mean having to spend a lot of money but it does mean making a conscious effort to always be well groomed and well dressed. I can’t stress enough how essential it is that whenever you leave the house and especially when you go on a date that you look like you put some effort into your appearance, even if you’re just running out to the grocery store. You have to put your best foot forward ALWAYS. It’s spring so get those nice springy clothes out or maybe get a couple flattering new outfits, pay a visit to your hair stylist or barber for a new look and visit your nearest spa to get pampered. All this will make you feel great, look great and help you exude the confidence required to find love.
- Be Positive
Spring clean your dating life by being positive! You get what you put out and if you put out positivity then you will get it back. This means looking at every situation you encounter as being for the good rather than the whole world being against you. We all have bad days, that’s normal, but it’s what you do about it that will set you apart from others. Look on the bright side, laugh about things, find a way to work around challenging situations, you can do it, just choose to rather than choosing to be negative. This also includes helping others, being a good person and showing people how much they mean to you. Remember, positive output equals positive input so this spring shed the negativity and opt for positivity in your life.
So there you have it, 5 tips to spring cleaning your dating life – choose happiness, let it go, be grateful, look good and be positive. Spring cleaning your dating life will ensure you get off on the right foot and give you a clean slate in order to open yourself up to all good things to come and make you more dateable!
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Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva
Originally appeared on eHarmony Canada.