What To Do When You’ve Been Ghosted

Have you ever experienced the dating waiting game? You go out on a great date and then wait for them to call you back, or you send them a message and wait for a response for what seems like eternity. You’re waiting for something, ANYTHING. You keep checking your phone, you have your friends call or text to make sure it still works. You know you’ve done it. I won’t lie, I have been guilty of this too.

So what do you do if you’ve been ghosted? If they never called you back? What’s their problem you ask?

In my latest for eHarmony Canada, I discuss why ghosting is something we’ve all experienced and how we have something to do with it, find out what to do about it by clicking on the link below!!

What To Do When You’ve Been Ghosted

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READERS: Have you ever been ghosted? Have you ever ghosted someone? Share your thoughts in the comments below!

Your Sister in Dating Bliss,

Single Dating Diva

 

10 comments

  1. I used to get so upset when thus happened and it happened a lot. The worst was when you were sexually active, including kissing and there was chemistry and they did it. With online I never kissed them (and wouldn’t have unless we were dating) so if they did this I said whatever. It happened a lot after a first date but to be honest I could usually see the signs. They were reluctant to make a second date and were not excited. I’d rather they do this early on than after a series of dates.

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      • Yep, that’s why I take it slowly until I know. With online there are so many variables (he could be dating others, met a woman he likes but wants to be sure, etc). It does turn off many men but they are likely not those in to for relationships.

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  2. Dear diva, there is this girl i want to be with. I first met her in a restaurant and we exchanged contact, since then she hardly pick up my calls and even when she picks she doesn’t sound fascinated. Like you always said people will be with if they want to, i always thought of this. Like her and i want to be with her, what should i do?

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    • Thanks for your question Mr. JJ. It seems you’re more enthusiastic about her than she is of you. If she was really interested in you then she would be wanting to speak with you more and spend time with you. If you really want to try then ask her out on a date and if she is interested she will say yes, if she says no then I suggest you move on and meet someone else. You can’t make someone want you, they do or they don’t and you need to accept that. Wishing you the best!

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  3. Hey Susie,

    I always contact my dates after but is there such a thing as being too much not like a ghost? Like I always feel that I should call or email the next day, sort of to show my interest. However, I also wonder if maybe that says I have nothing else going on? Maybe better to wait a bit and be a bit mysterious?

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    • Hey Chris! Thanks for sharing your experience. It’s always polite and a positive thing to do to send a message after a date (the next day maximum) to say “thank you for a great time”, they might respond or not but at least you were polite. If you’re interested in seeing them again then just add “I look forward to seeing you again” and go from there. You look desperate when you blow up their phone with messages and don’t leave them alone.

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    • Chris, do you contact all your dates or just the ones you are interested in? I ask because one of the nicest rejections occurred when a guy let me know he felt nothing but wishing me well. Sounds weird but I felt the same way. I thanked him for letting me know. He said he was afraid to let me know because other women were offended.

      I agree with Suzie. A call the next day saying you had fun is nice but don’t send several messages. Also, if you get rejected just say thank you and move on. I’ve had guys get nasty and it made me scared to be honest. If she doesn’t get back to you you can call her back in a few days (because after all she may have not gotten the message). Maybe try a few days after that but then just assumed she’s not interested. I always got back to guys I didn’t like but some people don’t.

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