Dating and FOMO – Why the Fear of Missing Out is Keeping You Single


Have you ever met someone you really really liked? You spend a lot of time together, you feel like you’ve met “the one” … but, something is holding you back. You miss your single life and dating. Even though you hated all the crap you had to deal with and all the douchebags you met, not to mention all the “hit and run” sexual encounters. You finally met someone who WANTS to be with you. You finally met someone who you can relate to. You finally realized that this could mean the end of your dating life and the beginning of your “happily ever after”. But, the allure of single life starts pulling you back. You think longingly about the attention you got. You think longingly about the hours you spent in textationships, flirting, sexual innuendos, dating in the land of make believe … but it was fun, you secretly enjoyed it, that’s why you let it go on for so long. So you sabotage a potentially good thing because of FOMO – the fear of missing out.

Dating and FOMO – Why the Fear of Missing Out is Keeping You Single

I’ve spoken before about dating in the age of instant gratification. It’s become such a problem in our society. Social Media and Online Dating are giving many the illusion of options, feeding their egos, and, keeping them single. The grass is ALWAYS greener on the other side. The fear of missing out on something better or more exciting lures many away from something good back into dating purgatory. So why suffer when you don’t have to? That’s something you need to figure out for yourself. Finding out what’s holding you back and why you keep feeling that longing for something different is key. Perhaps it’s because that person you’re dating isn’t really what you’re looking for, and that’s totally OK, but you need to learn to make better dating choices so that you weed out those who really won’t work from those who are truly compatible.

Entering new relationships after being hurt is a scary risk to take. I totally get it. I was there too. It took me a while to figure it out but I did and when I did I ended up finding what I was looking for. It took several years after my divorce to even be open to it but it was only when I actually figured out why I was self sabotaging and why I had so much dating FOMO that I could enter a healthy relationship. Sometimes we feel that we’re ready when in reality we really aren’t. It’s up to you to really do a good self-assessment to figure it all out (check below for my eWorkBook that will also help you work through where you’ve been and where you’d like to be).

The Fear of Missing Out is real but you can overcome it by being confident in the knowledge that although dating may be fun at times and a crazy addictive experience, you can find love, which is your ultimate goal. You just need to be willing to give it a chance and leave the past behind, looking forward to happy times ahead. FOMO is only holding you back and hurting you. Other people aren’t having exciting experiences dating while you’re left behind. You’re really not missing out. Whenever you feel FOMO when dating someone new, just think of all the crap you’ve endured when dating and you’ll quickly snap back into reality. Also, stop comparing yourself to others because you don’t ever know the whole story. Don’t MISS OUT on a great relationship because of the FEAR OF MISSING OUT in the dating world. Relax and enjoy the dating process and you’ll ultimately see the positive outcomes. Plain. Simple.

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READERS: Is the fear of missing out keeping you single? Have you ever self sabotaged a potential relationship because of the fear of missing out or seeing the greener grass on the other side? Share your thoughts in the comments below!

Your Sister in Dating Bliss,

Single Dating Diva

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  1. I think this is common early on and rightfully so. Until I become exclusive with a guy I plan to keep seeking. Why? because my history was dropping everyone early on and getting dumped. So now when I did online I gave myself about three months. Now this doesn’t mean sleeping with others (I won’t date a guy doing this), just dating.


  2. I don’t know for sure if I am experiencing FOMO but I do feel I am missing out on something when I see some of my friends getting married or my cousins making families (btw there of them are the same or 1 year older than me). I am happy being single for now, if I the right guy hasn’t found me then I will search for him. 🙂


    • Me too, especially when you start to see much younger, which is what I am seeing now. Then I see the people they pick and think they did decently but when I see the men I attracted online it made me depressed. So I don’t even try anymore and am okay.


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