Frustrated with your dating life? Can’t seem to meet the right person? Do you find yourself saying that “dating sucks”, that “all men are assholes” or that “all women are golddiggers?” Think that there are no good women or men out there? Well, it’s hard not to get discouraged when you’ve met so many people and been on so many dates and had one bad experiences after another. I get it. I was there. I couldn’t figure out why my luck was so bad and why I was a magnet to these jerks. Well, you know what Einstein said … “doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results” is the definition of insanity. But, here’s a thought, could your dating choices be what’s holding you back? I’m here to argue that there is no bad luck, just bad choices. Read on to find out more.
Are You Unlucky in Love?
There is no bad luck, just bad choices. One thing I get my clients to do is to take a close look at their past dating experiences to see if there are any trends. More often than not, they find that it’s the choices they make in dating partners that is the problem. So THEY were the problem all along not the people they date. Don’t get me wrong, no one has the right to treat you poorly BUT people treat us how we let them. For whatever reason (loneliness, stubbornness, wishful thinking, emotionally unavailable, enchanted, etc) you settle for or tolerate the wrong people. We’ve all done it. I certainly did. Until I realized that I was the one making all the mistakes. That I was the one making all the wrong choices. The same is true for many many others. When I made a conscious choice to change, I found exactly what I was looking for in a partner. I became lucky in love because I stopped making the wrong choices. I stopped blaming others because the solution was in my hands. How did I do this? I will tell you!
How To Change Your Luck!
You can be lucky in love by making better choices. Here’s how!
- Identify your dating trends and what the mistakes you keep making over and over are. A great way to do this is to write down all your past dating wins and fails and categorizing them. What worked and what didn’t? What attracted you to this person? Once you realize what the problem is you can deal with it.
- Determine why you keep making the choices in dating partners that you do. When you figure out what the mistakes are that you’re making you need to figure out why you keep choosing the same types of people expecting different results.
- Replace the bad choices with good choices. Once you have figured out what you’re doing and why, you can consciously make the right choices – the dating partners that meet all your dealmakers and don’t have any of your dealbreakers. You will automatically reject those who don’t fit what you need in a partner.
It won’t be easy to change your dating patterns, so go easy on yourself. You’ll probably cave to your weakness, but, you will realize it right away and change direction. I needed to be hurt a few more times before I learned my lesson for good and let go of what was holding me back. You can do it too. Remember, there is no such thing as bad luck, just bad choices. So make the right choices and you’ll see, you’ll get so much closer to your ultimate goal and attract the love you desire.
READERS: Do you feel that you are unlucky in love? Have you tried doing things differently? Share your thoughts in the comments below!
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Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva
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I used to say it was my bad luck, and part of it is luck, but it’s more. I noticed a disturbing pattern when I was younger and that was to date men I didn’t even like, wasn’t attracted to, who weren’t even nice, just to have someone. Instead of saying “hey I deserve to have what I want” I was desperate to have a boyfriend and the losers sensed this. Because I was afraid of being single in my older days I dated them. They were the worst guys ever, one was a con artist, another was a drug addict/alcoholic, another tried to date my best friend. In irony I am alone because I refuse to settle after being stung by these guys. Had I realized this earlier I would have been alone then but maybe not now. Sadly, now that I’m older the pickings are very slim.
the article really caught my eye. I was happy to share it with my young aunt who is unlucky in love. She needs this more than I do. Thanks for this 🙂
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