Tis the season to be … LONELY. Yes, I said it. The holiday season can really suck if you’re single. Trust me I’ve been there and I know. Seeing everyone all jolly and in love makes you want to puke or hide in your home netflix and chilling ALONE with a tub of ice cream and something alcoholic. Sound depressing? Sure it is. BUT it doesn’t have to be. The holiday season CAN be a positive experience when you’re single. You CAN survive being single during the holidays. I’ll show you how!
Surviving Being Single During the Holidays
Surviving being single during the holidays is all about perspective and frame of mind. You have to CHOOSE happiness and to enjoy the season. Here are some do’s and don’ts to keep in mind:
- Do Prioritize Your Time
Spend your time doing things you love with people you love spending time with. Prioritize your time with friends, family, things and people that make you happy, spend time with other singles, have a girls’ or boys’ night.
- Do Pamper Yourself
Treating yourself to something special will make you feel great. Spa days, new outfit, a makeover, a massage, technology or anything else you love or always wanted will make you feel good. You ARE saving money by not having to buy a partner a gift so spend it on YOU!
- Do Be Generous
This is definitely the season for giving – whether it’s money or gifts or food or your time – there are certainly many many opportunities for bringing out your philanthropic side. Helping the less fortunate will also help you be a more grateful person and to focus on what’s really important in life, being single isn’t one of them.
- Don’t Stress or Overthink – No Pity Parties!
Single is NOT a bad word nor is it a death sentance so don’t treat it that way. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and comparing yourself to others. You’re not the only single person in the world so be happily single and celebrate your single life over the holidays. If you feel a pity party coming on refocus your energy and go do something that makes you feel happy.
- Don’t Watch Romantic Comedies
Romantic Comedies, or RomComs, are toxic to single people. They not only make you feel worse, they give you an unrealistic idea of how dating and courtship works. They teach you that if you’re patient then the emotionally unavailable man or women can be turned around, they teach you that it’s ok if they behave badly with with they will be back, they teach you that playing games works … shall I go on? There are so many great movies out there for you to watch, choose something that will make you feel better after.
- Don’t Eat and Drink Your Feelings
Enjoy all the great food and drink BUT over-eating and over-drinking will only make you feel worse and do things that you might regret like feeling disgusting, hungover and wonder what drunk text you sent, or, worse, wondering who that is sleeping beside you.
Surviving being single during the holidays is about taking the time for self-care and care of others. Being single during the holidays isn’t the end of the world. There are options for not being alone or lonely, you just have to be create opportunities for yourself. Besides, you never know, you might just meet someone special while enjoying yourself or volunteering somewhere! So there you go … now go forth and be happily single.
Learn more on my segment on CTV Ottawa Morning discussing Surviving Being Single During the Holidays!
Happy Holidays my dear readers, wishing you a happy, healthy and fulfilling season.
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