Secrets Revealed: How To Be Irresistible … It’s Not What You Think!

How To Be IrresistableEveryone wants to be attractive to the object of their desires.  I will take that one step further and say that everyone wants to be irresistible to the object of their desires.  But how to be irresistible?  What are some things that will make them notice you and once you have their attention what will keep them around?  Well, each person is different, of course, but there are some inherent desires and needs that are common to everyone.  I will let you in on a couple of these little secrets that stem from lessons I’ve learned along the way and I will reveal how to be irresistible … you never know it might get you where you want to be with who you want to be.  Just try … what do you have to lose?

How To Be Irresistible

Be the Best Version of Yourself

Always put your best foot forward in life.  This means being the best version of yourself – physically, mentally and emotionally.  Look your best, take care of your health, always learn new things (makes for great conversation), stay grounded, know who you are  and stay true to yourself and your values.  Always remember that you are an awesome person with a lot to offer someone who deserves and appreciates it.  Don’t settle for less than that.

Be Flexible

An ideal partner is always flexible.  They give and take and are willing to compromise on things that are important to their partner.  This could be in every day decisions or for intimate things.  Be open minded and listen to where they are coming from.  Never do anything that goes against your values but try something new once in a while.  Don’t be stubborn or stuck in your ways.  You can’t always get your way, nor should you.  Good relationships always include compromise.

Acknowledge the Good

Always be a grateful partner.  Acknowledge that good things that people do for you.  Saying thank you is such a simple thing but it makes a world of difference.  Even if they tried and didn’t do it the way you would have, still say thank you for making the effort.  How hard is that? Not at all.  Often times we are stuck in a cycle of disappointment and criticism that we forget to be grateful for what we do have.  Don’t be that person, be the one who shows their partner their gratitude.  Trust me, not only will it make them feel good, it will make them want to do more and better the next time.  It will also make YOU feel good and remind you of what you do have, removing the focus from any negativity or critical thinking.

Be a Team Player

When you are in a relationship, you are in the relationship with another person.  You aren’t going at it alone.  Being a team player means working together for the common good of the team.  You want to move together in the same direction, on the same path.  This means making decisions together, respecting each other, loving each other, being honest with each other, being each other’s best friend, being vulnerable in front of each other, communicating effectively and making each other happy. You can’t be selfish and you need to consider your partner’s opinion when making decisions.  It takes two people working with equal effort to make a relationship successful.

Be An Assertive Communicator

Being assertive isn’t being arrogant or aggressive.  Being assertive means speaking your mind and standing up for what you believe in.  It’s going for what you want in life, whether that be a job, a partner or an object.  You see what you want and you do whatever it takes to get it.  Perhaps you won’t get it in the end, but as an assertive person you know that it was a lesson learned and you take your experience and apply it to the next thing you want.  Being assertive in a relationship means being able to communicate with your partner all your desires, concerns and needs.  A relationship without assertive communication doesn’t work because it results in negative things building up and one day they will surface in a very messy way.  Always interacting and solving issues when they come up makes a relationship stronger.

These tips work when you are single, dating or in a relationship.  You need to make yourself appear to others as an irresistible partner.  You have to BE that ideal, irresistible partner.  I always say that a relationship is like a gift.  Love, infatuation and lust is the wrapping paper and bow.  Friendship, respect, communication, sacrifice, flexibility, honesty, affection, wishing the best for the other are all the real gift inside the package.  That’s what really matters.  The wrapping paper gets dull and rips after a while, but what remains is the inside and that’s how you build your relationship on solid ground.  Plain.  Simple.

What are your secrets on how to be irresistible? What makes someone irresistible to you? I would love to hear about it in the comments!!

Your Sister in Dating Bliss,

Single Dating Diva

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  1. This is such a great article – sound advice!

    For me it’s about being honest, real …. basically being myself. It’s also what makes someone irresistible to me along with a good dose of happiness and positivity 🙂


  2. I did a lot of research on being irresistible for a free report I wrote for my site, and the thing that struck me was that much of what makes you irresistible to guys is the same as makes you attractive to humans in general – a great personality. Not really surprising at all in a way.

    Quite a few of the points (from the 52 I found) boil down to having a strong feeling of your own worth and projecting that – so, you present yourself as well as you can because you’re worth the effort, you don’t take crap from anyone (or in your nicer words, you’re assertive) because you are worth more than that, and it’s Ok to be vulnerable and open (which makes you attractive) because no one can take your self worth away from you whatever happens.


    • Thanks Ana! It’s being true to you … it all boils down to that. When you are true to you, others will treat you better because they know you won’t take their garbage.


  3. Definitely, being the best version of yourself and spontaneity; I also find people irresistible, who accept the hand they are dealt, and know exactly how to play it. 🙂


    • Thanks! Good point, I agree, when you show you are strong enough, and smart enough, to live life as it comes and stay standing you show others how true to yourself you really are.


  4. The more you focus on how you feel in your relationship, living in a way that makes you happy, the more good you’re doing for both parties. Everyone likes a happy partner, but more importantly, everyone deserves to be happy. Happy is irresistible.


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