Dating 101 – Back To Basics: Guest Post

Whether you’re back in the game after a long relationship or have been dating so long you want to re-review the basics, this guide will help you navigate that oft-tricky dating path!

Going Back To Basics With Dating 101

dating 101Go Somewhere You Like

Whether you have asked someone on a date or been asked, you are much more likely to have a good time if you go somewhere you know you’ll feel at ease.

If you are arranging the date, suggest a venue that reflects your true tastes and you will find it easier to relax into small talk when your date arrives. If it’s a dinner date, choose a restaurant with a menu, service and style you enjoy, or if it’s an activity date go for something that you will have fun doing.

If you have been asked to go somewhere that fills you with dread, don’t be afraid to make an alternative suggestion. For example, if your date suggests an Indian restaurant but you hate spicy food, or bowling is mentioned but you have never enjoyed it, come up with different options – somewhere or something you can both enjoy.

Wear Clothes That Make You Feel Good

When choosing what to wear, pick the outfit you feel best in. For formal dinners, dresses or skirts with heels are best for women, while men can’t go wrong with crisp shirts. If the venue is less formal, more casual clothes may be appropriate but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t make an effort.

If you are wearing jeans, choose black or dark-blue and the ones you feel best in, and wear them with a well-cut flattering top or shirt. Make sure your shoes are clean and polished, and don’t forget a dab of perfume or aftershave!

Pay Attention To Your Date

Many people worry about making small talk on a date but if you show an interest in the other person and ask questions about their job, where they live and their hobbies the conversation should soon start to flow.

Not only will asking questions help spark conversation, the other person will usually feel flattered by the interest you are paying them.

Be Confident

Being confident about yourself and the evening ahead is the best way to convince the other person to feel confident about you and enjoy the date.

If you feel nervous beforehand, take some time to relax and release any tension. Go for a walk or jog before you get ready to relieve any stress and visualise yourself feeling calm and happy. Dispel any self-doubts you have about yourself and instead remind yourself what a fine and interesting person you are – if you know it, your date will be much more likely to recognise it, too!

Have Fun

The final piece of advice is to remember that dating should be fun! Don’t take it too seriously and instead see it as a chance to have a laugh with someone. If it doesn’t go as well as you would like, start looking forward to another date with someone else! There really are plenty more fish in the sea.

Your Sister in Dating Bliss,

Single Dating Diva

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One comment

  1. May I add my “two cents”…. Please, please communicate afterwards – e-mall or a phone call – to tell the person how you feel about going out with them again – YES or NO. And if you are a lady, and the guy paid for that dinner or drinks, thank him ( Yes gents, that goes the other way also). It seems people these days are just too busy, or lazy, to follow up on a date and communicate how they feel. Common courtesy has not gone out of style… at least I do not believe so. Oh… and if your date does decide not go out again with you, it’s OK…. move on and do not ask why…. it is nothing personal. Remember what Suzie said…. “There really are plenty more fish in the sea.”


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