Did someone leave you high and dry and you’re distraught? I know the feeling. It sucks. Especially when they peace out when you need them most in your life. I had that happen to me recently. But people are like that and you know what I say? Let them walk away. Don’t sit there feeling sorry for yourself. Don’t hold a grudge. Don’t let their selfishness or whatever it is that made them leave place an unnecessary burden on you. Obviously they aren’t worth it and you know that. Not everyone is a good person and you deserve good people in your life. But you knew that already!
Let Them Walk Away
If someone doesn’t want to be in your life why on earth would you still want them there. We have this nasty habit of remembering the good times and conveniently forgetting the bad. Why is that? We miss all the good things, of course – you know when they made us feel good and gave us what we needed emotionally and physically. However, you also need to keep in mind all the times they made you feel less than loved and inadequate. For example, when they completely did nothing for your birthday except send you a text. WTF? How about being hot and cold with you? What about using you to show off to their loser friends? Well, you know the deal. Keeping a balanced head will help you do what needs to be done. Anger, resentment and anxiety will only hurt you and make you sick so why go there? It’s NOT worth it!! They’re NOT worth it!!
One of the hardest things in the world to do is to watch someone walk away. It’s not only an emotional blow, it’s a blow to the ego. No one wants to be rejected. Whatever the reason for the split you have to believe it was for the best. It really always is. Remember, you won’t see it right away but hindsight is 20/20 right? Just trust that everything happens for the right reason and you are always where you need to be when you need to be there, even if you don’t understand it right away. Just let them walk away, you’ll really be glad you did.
YOU Have to Peace Out
You need to be strong. Repeat after me “I will not define myself by the acceptance or rejection of someone else”. You need to be selfish here and take care of you. No one can do that better than you. Every relationship has a natural end, sometimes it’s right away and sometimes it’s over the long term, just trust that it was for the best. Don’t turn crazy or stalker. They’re not worth it. Just pick up the pieces and move on. You don’t have to meet other people right away, but at least be open to it.
Distance yourself from the situation. Let yourself grieve, there’s nothing wrong with it, but then you have pick up the pieces and get back to your normal life. No one is worth your grief or worth getting sick over. I say screw them! You’re much better than that, aren’t you? YOU have to peace out my friends … the best revenge is you living a happy, fulfilling life WITHOUT them. Yes, you heard me right. Let them regret walking away.
NO Second Chances
I am an avid believer of NO second chances. You left once then keep walking. I might continue a friendship with an ex if necessary for whatever reason, but NO second chances. I will never take anyone back. Why? Well, the reason they left will call them back one day. Things may change for a short while, but really they never do change. Those ugly little things you’ve hidden in the closet come creeping back one way or another, so why bother entering into a vicious cycle? Just move on without them and you’ll be better for it (and NO SEX!!). They see that you’re this great person without them and want you back? GOOD! That’s the sweetest revenge!! You know what you do?? Accept what happened, move on and …
WALK AWAY and PEACE OUT! Plain. Simple.
Have you had a recent breakup? Does it take you a while to get over it? Do you ever take back an ex? I would love to hear about it in the comments!
Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva
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