The holiday singles dread more than any other is Valentine’s Day. It’s that one day the world seems to be in love instead of you. So instead of locking yourself up and hiding until February 15th, here is my Valentine’s Day Survival Guide if You’re Single and Dating!
Valentine’s Day Survival Guide If You’re Single and Dating
We’re our own worst enemies when it comes to love. At times like this, the negative self-talk (or that inner voice) can be deafening. Self-talk can really impact on your confidence and how you feel about yourself. This can manifest itself as both positive or negative. Positive self-talk makes you feel good, essentially. So it’s being proud of something you did or like what you see in the mirror. Negative self-talk, on the other hand, makes you feel bad about yourself. It could be beating yourself up about something you said or did, hating yourself, feeling unlovable or even alone in the world. If negative self-talk rears its ugly head on Valentine’s Day, you want to drown it out with positive affirmations.
Here are some examples of mantras or affirmations you can use (10 Powerful Self-Loving Mantras Source gaia.com):
- I love myself.
- I am worthy of love.
- I am worthy of good things.
- I can choose positive thoughts.
- I let my happiness be visible to others.
- I am strong.
- I am becoming the person I want to be.
- My life is moving forward perfectly.
- I am confident in my decisions. I am the creator of my own destiny.
- I surround myself with loving people.
Pick one and keep repeating it, writing it, typing it, putting it up on your fridge, putting it on your mirror. Keep repeating it for a week or as long as it takes to begin to sink in. Fake it until you make it. Then, pick another one. You are in control of your thoughts and emotions, no one else is. Positive self-talk will definitely help you survive being single on Valentine’s Day!
Love Is All Around You
I can’t say it better than this quote by Barry Long:
“Love is all around you like the air and is the very breath of your being. But you cannot know it, feel its unfeeling touch, until you pause in your business, are still and poised and empty of your wanting and desiring.”
Love really is all around you. We spend so much time focusing on romantic love and finding love that we miss the world happening around us. Celebrate love with those around you – friends, family, even pets. Look around you, there are so many people in your life that would love to be with you. If you don’t have someone then go volunteer somewhere and spread love to those that need it most. You’d be surprised how many lonely people are out there who would give anything for a hug or some compassion. If you put love out to the universe the universe will send it back. So stop obsessing about finding love and open your eyes to the love that is all around you on Valentine’s Day and every day.
Who says you need someone to spoil you on Valentine’s Day?! Spoil yourself! You deserve it!! When you spoil yourself, you are investing in yourself and your wellbeing. Do something that makes you feel good and rejuvenated, whatever that means for you. When we indulge in something that makes us happy then we feel more positive as well as confident and it radiates out, which, in turn, attracts people to us. Positive energy is sexy.
Some examples of ways to spoil yourself could be:
- a spa day or treatment
- buying yourself a little something special (clothing, accessories, technology, etc)
- attend an event or show
- take uninterrupted time out for yourself to take a nap, read a book or whatever else relaxes you
- take a solo trip somewhere
- take a fancy class to learn something new
- hire a stylist or a personal trainer
Whatever it is that would make you happy and fulfilled will get you that much closer to your ultimate goal of finding love. Besides, when you’re focusing on your own indulgences, you don’t have time to think about Valentine’s shmalentines …
Go On a Date
Who says you must have a romantic interest to go on a date on Valentine’s Day? You can take yourself out or grab some friends who are also single and all go out, or host a get together at your place if you really don’t want to look at all those people in love. What about taking your elderly grandparent out or visiting them? There are so many options. Planning something to do will help you focus on the true meaning of Valentine’s Day which is love in all forms, not only romantic.
So whether you are single or dating no one special, Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be a bust. You can survive this day by being happily single and just celebrating love for the sake of love. You can do it. You know you can. You just have to let go of the negative self-talk and decline the invitation to the pity party … because, you know, you have better things to do!
READERS: What do you do on Valentine’s Day? Share your thoughts in the comments below!
Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva
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