From Self-Sabotage to Power [Be a Rockstar]

These posts are meant to lead you be your most empowered self and help you overcome those things that are holding you back from reaching your goals. Some of this might resonate with you, or not, and I’m not here to judge anyone or their actions, only to give you something to think about.

People who self-sabotage usually get in their own way. It is a negative mindset where someone deliberately destroys themselves physically, mentally, or emotionally to stand in the way of their own success usually undermining their goals. It is usually done consciously but can be a subconscious response to something. According to experts, “the forces that lead to self-sabotage can also be more subtle, such as an accumulation of dysfunctional and distorted beliefs that lead people to underestimate their capabilities, suppress their feelings, or lash out at those around them.”

Eliminating self-sabotage starts with becoming aware of your behavior and the reason behind it. Being mindful of why you turn on your self-destruct mode will help you take your power and control back. Some questions you can ask yourself are: what am I afraid of? what is holding me back? how is self-sabotage serving me? is this a result of trauma? am I overthinking?

Experts suggest that “to stop sabotaging yourself, you need to figure out your patterns of behavior and then find creative ways to counteract them and form new habits.” You can turn self-sabotage into power firstly by understanding it and secondly changing your behavior. Stop giving up your power by sabotaging yourself and TAKE BACK your power!

Where to start:

  • Recognize why you self-sabotage by asking yourself how it serves you?
  • Be mindful of your actions and stop overthinking everything.
  • Understanding the roots of your self-sabotage will help you take back your power.

Affirmation & Gratitude:

Something simple as affirming that “I will not self-sabotage today” or even “I will stop overthinking today” will help remind you that you are in control. Then, at the end of the day, being grateful for all the wins and lessons learned will help you feel a sense of accomplishment.

“Self-sabotage is when we say we want something
and then go about making sure it doesn’t happen.”

[Alyce Cornyn-Selby]

Your Takeaway

  1. Self-sabotage is when someone deliberately destroys themselves physically, mentally, or emotionally in order to stand in the way of their own success which usually results in them undermining their goals.
  2. By recognizing why you self-sabotage, you will take back your power and control by replacing it with more positive behaviors.
  3. Once you recognize the reason you self-sabotage, you can change your behavior by replacing it with a new reaction.
  4. Find ways to reduce your stress by finding what triggers it, what the source is, and work to either eliminate the source or learn to deal with it better.
  5. Self-care an extremely important part of this. Your daily affirmations and gratitude will help keep you on track.  Fill your cup because you cannot move forward if your bank account is already in overdraft.

TRY THIS: Examine what the source of your self-sabotage is and look for patterns. Understand why you are doing it in order to take back your power.

POST IT NOTE: I will stop sabotaging myself

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