“A pleasant illusion is better than a harsh reality.” ~ Christian Nevell Bovee

This is definitely my “quote of the week”. How I’m feeling.  But am I just dreaming in Technicolor … well perhaps.  But sometimes it’s easier to live in a hazy daze … no?  Let me explain.  Relationships in general are complicated, romantic ones even more so.  I mean wouldn’t it be great if things fit into a nice small neat package? Of course! But we all know life doesn’t always work that way.  So what do you do? Enjoy the illusion or just live your life realistically?  I had this discussion with a good friend recently.  I generally tend to look at things realistically in my every day life and in my interactions with others.  I am always the one who will dish out the tough love to my friends and family.  Everything has to be logical and fall into place neatly.  Less headache and drama this way for sure.  Everything is clear and out in the open.  This applies to family, friends, home, work … every day life.

Now comes my love life … my romantic relationships.  It seems things work differently in that department.  I tend to enjoy living in illusions.  This does get me into trouble.  I usually see what I want to see and ignore everything else.  You know what I mean don’t you?  Choosing to notice only the good things and ignoring the blatantly obvious bad.  I tend to enable bad behavior, but I think it’s because I like it.  I enjoy the challenge of a “bad boy”.  I find “normal” relationships and people quite boring actually.  So what am I getting at here?  Well, I have been reflecting about my different dating experiences and the men in my life presently and in the past.  Has my unhappiness been my own doing?  Have I willingly sabotaged good prospects?  I think I do.  Why have I done this?  I think because I am scared of committing again … or is it that I’m having too much fun being single?  Well, whatever the reason, this has to stop.  I need to be realistic and start moving forward positively.

What does this mean?  Well it means not running away from potentially good dating opportunities because I am hung up on my ideals and illusions.  I solemnly swear to let go of negative emotional attachments.  This is the only way to move forward positively.  I no longer want to run away from a good thing.  I want to be happy.

By the way, I have some dates on the horizon and can’t wait to share!  Talk soon!

Your Sister in Dating Bliss,

Single Dating Diva

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