The Sex Numbers Game

We all have a number … you know which one.  The “how many have you had” number.  Your sex number could be anywhere from zero to hundreds.  Yes, I’ve met people who have stopped counting after a hundred.  Yikes!  Oh well, to each their own, right? Good on them if they’re happy! Both the zero and the hundreds.  It’s all good.  It’s normal that some of our numbers are larger than others.  Perhaps some of us have even lost count … don’t look at me like that, I didn’t say it was me!  Don’t bother asking me, I’m not telling you my number!  I will give you a hint.  I’m not at zero, nor am I at hundreds! Not narrow enough for you?  Well too bad!

The Sex Numbers Game

the numbers gameSo everyone is always curious about other people’s numbers.  But is it really our business?  Do we really need to know?  I don’t think we do.  As long as someone is safe and clean why worry about it?  I don’t.  I never ask a guy how many he’s had.  Why should I? It’s not my business! Just as long as he has not been with someone I know.  I don’t like that.  Then I REALLY don’t want to know.  The way I see it, the more experience the better the skills, right?  Don’t they say variety is the spice of life?

People are either the monogamous type or they aren’t.  Plain and simple.  There is no in between or people that “change”.  Don’t believe a word of it.  A player is a player is a player.  No changing them.  Either hop on for the ride (ahem) or keep walking.  If you can’t take the heat, get out of the kitchen … and so forth.  What I do believe is being true to yourself.  I also feel that those who are poly-amorous should stick to their own kind and not corrupt or hurt the mono-amorous types.  I guess I have sex prejudices.  Stick to your own kind! I do.  Which kind is that?  I’m not telling so stop asking! I’m fair and I’m honest with myself and with others.  That’s the way it should be.  You seriously can’t expect a virgin anymore … they are becoming more and more extinct.  The “40 year old virgin” just doesn’t exist or is quite rare.

So should you discount a person just because you know they have slept with multiple people?  I say no, of course not.  I’ll tell you why.  This is who they are.  Their past has made them who they are today.  Also, the older someone is the more natural it is that their number is higher.  If you are on the same page and are from the same amorous species then go for it.  Particularly the cocky sexy ones.  This confidence definitely comes from their many partners.  The same goes for the less cocky ones, their innocence shows.  Although I have to say some like to show themselves as the other you will know the truth pretty much right away.  Isn’t their attitude what attracted you to them in the first place? Ya, that’s right.  Then, why do you care what their number is?  Stop asking!

There’s also the issue of the “double standard”.  If a woman has had many partners, then she’s a whore but if a man has then he’s macho.  What’s up with that?  Hey buddy she’s not a whore, she’s just … well … horny! Yes, that’s right I said it.  Women have needs too.  They shouldn’t be judged for their number the same way that men shouldn’t be judged for theirs.  So I ask you again, does the number really matter?  I say HELL NO! Don’t ask, you really don’t want to know.

Happy Dating!

Your Sister in Dating Bliss,

Single Dating Diva

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Originally Published on Singles Warehouse


  1. I am totally an advocate for the “don’t ask if you don’t want to know” rule. One of my ex’s got all funny about my “magic number” (which, now that I look back on it, isn’t even high!) It caused me to be conscious of it for years, until I realised, it really doesn’t matter!

    I don’t want to know. I don’t need to know. And the person I’m with doesn’t really need to know mine. Its irrelevant. It has no bearings on my body, or my abilities (ahem). As long as we’re happy, healthy and safe, there shouldn’t be a problem, simples!


  2. Reminds me of that scene in Four Weddings and a funeral, what was it? “less than Madonna, more than Mother Theresa” or something. Of course it doesn’t matter, and there should be no difference whether you are male or female. Talking sense Diva, shame this is still an issue for some. Let’s hope they find your post and stop counting 🙂


  3. My number wasn’t that high when I forgot it on purpose. I consciously made the decision to not keep track anymore. An “I don’t know and I don’t care” is probably the best I can offer a girl. Either she likes it or doesn’t, it’s out of my control. Her number doesn’t matter to me in the least. I really don’t care.


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